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I would have to say from outside experience of seeing someone close to me live a homosexual lifestyle, it is not as bad as it is perceived. They was like the average person, except when it came to relationships they preferred same sex relations. Now this person I'm referring to they say he became gay do to the fact of child molestation. I still feel like maybe that wasn't the case. I feel he chosen this life style for acceptance. You know when you are in school and you have peer pressure all around you and trying to be accepted in any group of peers willing to accept you, that is the group you would join. Growing up around this individual, they never seem to have friends very long. It was something about them that already pin pointed that someday they would break out of this shell and branch out into this person they have been hiding deep within themselves. This person got into fights just because they seem different and people didn't like that. Well in today's society there is either silent acceptance or badgering acceptance and you would have to take which one you seem good at. Getting accepted into this world quietly or being a bully so that you can be heard. So this person became a teenager and broke out of its shell he started coming out of the closet having a homosexual relationship. I observed the way he dealt and in the strangest way he gained his self esteem and power in a gay relationship. Before he choose this lifestyle he was a shy, quiet boy. Getting into fights but was to timid to fight back. When he decided to become gay he just branched out of his humility. He wasn't shy anymore and as a matter of fact he didn't get into fights anymore, because he was the initiator. He started fights now and he spoke for what he believed in. He would walk around so proudly and he was no longer ashamed of himself.I feel that he felt acceptance in homosexuality. He could be himself and just be free. I still don't know if he is gay because he likes the same sex or if he is gay because he feel this is the only group that he feel accepted in. What I do know is he seem like a different person, because he has chosen this lifetyle. Some can say he changed for the better or for the worse. What I can say is I place no judgment on what he chosen for his lifestyle because he still is the same person. He is just like the person who decides to smoke, or decides to become pregnant. They choosed that it could be due to acceptance or something they just want to do, but that is a whole other story.

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