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The age old adage of mama's boys and daddy's girls is a traditional family ideal that is casually commented upon at every get together and reunion. The affiliation is common to explain off behaviors that appear as a child showing a preference to one parent over the other. These days the traditional ideals are not as common as they used to be. The disruption of the nuclear family has changed not only the existance and instances of mama's boys and daddy's girls, but also the once exclusive relationship between a mother and a daughter. Everyone knows the implied images. The daughter wearing mom's make-up and clothes as a young girl, at odds with her mother as a teen, growing up to find her best friend (who really was right about all that stuff)and sharing secrets and going shopping. The beauty of sharing those stories of being a mom once the daughter follows in the footsteps. I am sure somewhere these rarities still occur; however, the world is a different place now and so are the women who are so bonded by blood. Today moms are more than they ever used to be. It is not only about raising kids and maintaining a household anymore. The common absence of quality biological male role models has changed the process. They are either super moms or broken moms. In this changed family some moms do it all. They work, clean, advocate, tutor, carpool, launder, fix, cook, potty train, spray for bugs, plant gardens, shop for school clothes, train, teach, mow the grass, pay bills, plan, organize, sit at the ER for hours, administer the medicine, defrost the fridge, wash the car, pack lunches, and at the end of the day they cry and wish they had read a book or shaved their legs. There is no time for friends, no time for phone calls, no time for relationships. Then there are some who may have been super mom and at some point their nightly crying spell turns to sorrow and they find an escape. It could be drugs, alcohol, yelling at the kids, sexually acting out, finding long term babysitters so they can party, forgot the lunch, overslept, missed the bus, and had no clue their kid was failing. In either situation a newfound relationship emerges with their daughter which has now created an endless cycle of changed behavior in adult women as they grow up. The daughters watch their moms stretch their every limit to provide a home alone or they watch their mom escape without them because of the pressure, either way causing a young girl to feel as a burden to her mother.

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