Soul mates: Do they really exist?
Soul mate, a wonderful term that instantly makes a person think of two people that are completely as one, that were born for each other. A lovely thought and one I believed in until I found the Internet and discovered that there are many people that you are instantly attracted to in mind, body or soul. Let me expand on this theory, I met Greg on a pen pal site and it was as if he was my other half, we shared so many views and though we would never meet enjoyed our relationship on line. I also met Lorraine and again the same feelings of knowing her for ever, and we would laugh, albeit not physically that we would know what the other was thinking. Ron I met and we write together, via email, he will write a paragraph and I will add to it on what ever subject we are chatting about, its difficult to see where he has finished and I have started as we write so alike. I have met a number of such friends on the Internet and some I have an instant joining others were just friends. Here in England I have friends that are wonderful but are just a friend, and then I have others that are like another part of me, that I would miss terribly if they were not around.
I believe that we all have soul mates, and that we meet them through our lives. I asked a number of friends and colleagues to describe a soul mate to me and everyone came back with two people who meet each other and instantly feel as if they have known each other for years and fall in love instantly' interesting. We all love to believe in the white knight, or the soul mate and the beginning of the relationship gives us those wonderful feelings, however the truth is that to have a soul mate you need to work at the relationship, my mother and father are I believe soul mates, they have been married 30 years, love each other intensely, know each other intimately, feel each others emotions. To me this could be summed up as the true meaning of a soul mate where two people become as one through time and patience. Accepting the good and bad and not running away when the relationship starts to seem stale. My boss has been divorced three times and he once said to me the one thing I do realize is that you yourself will never change, the grass might seem greener but you will still do the same things, because you are you' he was observing that another chap had run off with a young woman and for a while had partied, they had married and now he eats the same lunch in the same lunch box, moans the same about his new wife.
So a soul mate could be a fantasy, seeing that person across a crowded room, falling in love instantly. Or the duller version of hard work, becoming a soul mate through years of living with a person, getting to know them inside out, accepting their funny little habits, you have them as well. The most important thing of all in any relationship is communication and respect for each other.
A good friend of mine once came to me moaning that her husband was boring and fell asleep in front of the television. I told her to add a bit of spice into her relationship, walk by him and surprise him with a kiss. She told me the next day that she had changed into a lovely negligee, then strolled by him, jumped on the poor man pinning his hands behind his head and said seductively hello' and kissed him. The poor chap nearly had a heart attack needless to say he never fell asleep on the couch again. How many relationships fall by the way side because two people don't make the effort with each other, and those couples that you see that seem to be made' for each other, and deemed as soul mates live long and happy marriages due to working at their relationship.
Yes soul mates do exist in many forms, from platonic relationships of like minded people to couples that become as one through love and commitment.