by Just Dee

Created on: May 09, 2008

Looking back at my childhood, I was rarely spanked. I had no boundaries for security, I was simply lost without discipline. As a mother, I know the value of discipline and I know for a fact that a good spanking on the bottom works. My son actually respects me and he feels more secure by having borders that he is not allowed to cross. He has the boundaries to feel safe. He always knows the reason why I spank him and I will never spank him out of anger.

I have some friends living with me for a while and one day my son was trying to push the boundaries. I gave him a warning, he refused to listen and then he got a spanking. It immediately straightened him out. My friends were astonished. After half an hour, he sat on my lap and I explained to him why he was spanked and told him that I loved him very much and I spank him because I love him and I want to teach him how to be good.

My friends witnessed how a spanking transformed my son from being naughty to becoming so angelic. There always has to be a consequence to bad behavior. If there is no spanking, kids will never feel the need to respect and honor their elders. They will have no care for someone in authority. However, the golden rule is that no one spanks my child except myself and his dad. He knows that I want him to respect all people but they are not allowed to spank my child.

Had my mother spanked me when she caught me smoking cigarettes, maybe I would be a non smoker today? I know that many times I had my way and what I really needed was some discipline. I don't blame my mother, she did what she thought was best. A good spanking can kick the foolishness out of a child in a heart beat, it is a fact! Spare the rod and you spoil the child. You can immediately see the difference in a child who gets spanked for bad behavior in comparison to a child that has never known what a spanking is.

The lesson here is really to never spank a child out of anger. Children know when they are getting a spanking out of love or out of anger. Should you spank a child purely because you are angry with the child, this will result in rebellious behavior and could worsen the situation even more. Spanking has to be done out of love. Children need to know that you love and respect them. Communication is also very important. Both parents also have to agree on the subject of spanking.

Children are masterminds in running to mom or to dad and trying to manipulate the situation. Parents have to have the same mindset and the same parenting skills. Only one of the parents should give the spanking and the parent who did the spanking should be the one to talk to the child after wards. The other parent shows love and compassion but does not patronize or belittle the other parent's efforts to discipline.

Spanking is one of the key tools for effective parenting. Children are dependent on parents knowing the way and showing the way. We have a responsibility to raising children who are a blessing to their community. One day, your children will thank you for being the parent who disciplined and spanked them. It is never fun to spank but it is worth it when it molds your child into being a positive, well mannered and well behaved child.

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