by Laura Fellows

Created on: May 05, 2008

Is it possible to be too nice? The answer: definitely. I have recently come across this special skill myself. I had begun to think about how many friends I have gained this past year. How many social groups and "cliques" I found myself associated with. I was liking this a lot, but how did I get involved with all these different people? Sure my outgoing ability had something to do with this, but how did I remain with this many friends for so long? The key: I let people take advantage of me.

How do you not realize at first that people have taken advantage of you? Honestly, it's quite simple. I've grown up in quite a small town. Drama is a big factor in our every day life. Whether it be in school or old ladies gossiping at the gym, drama surrounds us. Along with drama comes backstabbing, lies, etc. If you end up losing one friend, you seem to lose a whole group. I LOVE being social, so when I seem to encounter an issue with one friend from a certain "clique" I just let it roll off my back. That seems to be the only possible way to maintain a good social status, so I thought.

My best friend and I have developed this system. We tell each other when something is wrong with us, no matter what it is or who it's about. We can't keep secrets even if it would hurt the other person. This has definitely helped our friendship stay strong and it shall remain strong if we continue to do this simple task.

Why can't everyone just follow this amazing rule? It makes drama decrease, life so much easier, and it makes it more enjoyable as well! Answer: We're all afraid. We're afraid of what the other's reaction will be when they hear the news. Even if it's something as simple as "Oh I went to the mall with [insert name here] on Sunday and I saw your best friend." You think oh, that's cool. Then your best friend tells you that she did see that person, but she wasn't with [insert name here]. She was accompanied by the guy you have this ginormous crush on. Now, you know that you're friend and this guy are friends. You're unaffected by this because you're quite sure that your crush won't like her back. When you confront her though, her answer shouldn't be "Well, I just said that because I'd tell you later when you found out and I didn't want you to be mad at me." Note: WRONG ANSWER! This is a major red flag in any friendship and when it comes up and you brush it off, even when it bugs you, that tells you something. You realize, gosh this has happened so many times before that you just

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