by Jalise Hackle

Created on: May 04, 2008

It is very important to have trust in a relationship. I have been through so many ups and downs in my current relationship with my now boyfriend of 10 months. I have had to deal when Insecurity and jealousy Issues in whatever came up! I am expected to call whenever I leave out of my house. Whether I'm going to the store or even just taking a walk. It's Ridiculous! If i say I'm going to do do one thing and then something else comes up, I'm considered a "liar", or "acting funny". He always going through my phone, looking for numbers that don't look familiar to him. There was even this one time, he woke me up at 5am just to ask my who left me a voice message! Now, I know the only person who contacts me that early is my mother. She gets up for work at 4am to get ready leave at 5. We both knew that! So to have him wake me up out of my sleep for that, pissed me off! Once I let him see that it was not a boy, he dozes back off to sleep! And guess who ends up staying awake the rest of the morning because they couldn't get back to sleep. That's right ME! I can't watch TV! He watches me while we watch TV to see if I react to the men on the TV. I can't listen to male artist around him like Chris Brown, Diplomats, or Jay-Z, without him thinking I like the on another level. He'll eaves drop on my phone calls to make sure no boys left me messages or called me. I can't have distant (male) family member's numbers because he doesn't believe they're real family! Yet and still, I don't go through his phone. I could care less what numbers he has! He has a box full of XXL and Source Magazines filled with pictures of Half or completely naked women in them! But I don't trip! Because I TRUST him. He doesn't want me outside because he is afraid of boys stopping and flirting with me. And when it does happen, I have to call to tell him the minute it happens. Like I can't take care of myself. I understand that you are overprotective but RELAX! I've been with him for almost a year already, when is he going to trust me? Never? Since we been together he hasn't gotten along with my family because he neglected to meet them when we first met. So my mother has held this animosity towards him after I moved out and started living with him. But I never let what she said dictate how I felt about him. But he still gets disrespectful towards them when I'm either on the phone with them or when I'm in the middle of getting ready to go see them. He'll call everyone of my family members that he feels is against him, every name in the book. He'll listen in on the phone and curse out everything they say. But after threatening to leave him 3 and 4 times, he's straighten up a little, and he has learn to respect my space. But, there are still issues dealing with my phone. I told him, that he is welcomed to look through my phone whenever he wants to, as soon as he starts paying my phone bill! I pay for it now, and until that changes, there WILL be a LOCK put on my phone so you can't get access what-so-ever. When he learns to respect my privacy in it's entirety, the lock will be taken off. Until then, nobody knows the password but me. Simple, If I can't get my respect and privacy, then I'll just have to take it!

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