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How to care for aging parents

by Bryant Greenlaw

Created on: May 03, 2008

We have all seen it before whether it is a mother/father of a child, or a lioness/lion and a cub, parents will do anything and everything to protect their young. Remember sons and daughters, no matter how old you are you are still mommy and daddy's young. You could be 65 years old, and a 95 year old parent confined in a wheel chair will find the strength that you thought had long since gone, and protect you. There is nothing tougher, loving, caring..and stubborn than a parent.

There is nothing worse than seeing your child injured or hurt whether emotionally or physically. "Look both ways before crossing the street, do not talk to strangers, stay away from the water's edge, do not play with fire, do not jump out of that tree," you once thought were ridiculous as a child, are not appreciated until you become a parent. Words or sayings you vowed you would never say to your child(ren) will stop you in your tracks and have you saying "I am just like my parents." What happens when you find yourself worrying about your parents as they get older, as they did about you?

Hold on, wait a minute. Let's refer to the Parents/Child handbook. Ah there is it on a page 7088, section 25, 2008th edition "While parents have worried about their children for years, it is not to be reciprocated. Even though we have taught them by example to care for others and to take care of others, parents can take care of and worry about children; children cannot take care of, or worry about parents." There you have it in black and white. Unfortunately, no such handbook exists.

While a few may chuckle at this, as our parents get older this is something that a lot of children face. We (parents and children) are raised to be independent, to think for ourselves, and function without requiring help.

What happens when a parents becomes ill or sick? That truly depends on your parents and how much they are willing to cooperate and not let pride and fear get in the way of letting their children help them out.

Adult Child: "How was your doctor's appointment today?"
Parent: "Fine"
Adult Child: "What did the doctor say?"
Parent: "Nothing"

Parents do not revert to a child as they get older. It is much worse. Our loving parents revert to teenagers. The very one liner responses that drove your parents nuts will now come back to haunt you, not only with your parents, but your children. The only thing that could top it off is a slamming door.

There comes a time for a parent when a child feels they no longer need mommy

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