by Skyler Sage

Created on: May 02, 2008

I am engaged again.

Yes, it's true.

I know people will say I acted impetuously. Spontaneously. That I shouldn't make such a deep commitment to anyone on such short notice. That I shouldn't get involved again so quickly after my last heart-wrenching breakup. That I am still in grief over the loss of the man I believed to be my one true love.

Only this time, I have finally chosen someone who:

- I won't have to leave after years together to "find myself"

- Is willing to walk through life challenges with honesty and courage

- On balance, I have more positive times with than negative

- Can stand in the Truth, even when it feels terrifying

- Won't abandon me when times get tough

- Doesn't make decisions under the influence of confusion & emotional distress

This time, I have found myself a life partner with whom I can share anything and everything. Who I can truly grow with as time goes on. Who can't and won't abandon me under any circumstances. Someone with whom I can work through any challenge with knowing we will come out stronger and closer on the other side.

This is a person I've known and loved for many, many years. I am still amazed with every day we spend together. Regardless of our mood, regardless of the activity, we continue to love and support one another. We continue to enjoy one another's company through every life experience. We meet life's ups and downs with a light-heartedness that is rare in this world. We can laugh together, cry together, rejoice together, grieve together.

This is someone whom I've grown to respect very deeply. I have watched them make life decisions with clarity, honesty and integrity. This is someone I trust instinctively. I know that I will be considered and consulted in every decision made. Because of this, I can truly commit to this marriage for the rest of life fearlessly and enthusiastically.

This beautiful creature has emotional intelligence, a rich spirituality, and is smart as a whip. We are as sexually compatible as anyone could ever be. We love all the same activities, the same people, the same food. We make decisions well together and are destined to do great things in this world. In short, we are perfect for each other!

As I slipped the engagement ring on my finger just yesterday, I felt I could finally, finally exhale. For this commitment, unlike others in my past, is finally safe. The ring is funky and unique, just like me. How could they know this and choose something so perfect for me?

I know my decision was sudden. I know I will be judged for that. But the beauty of this marriage is that it is absent of the typical rules of found in most other partnerships. I am free to do what I want, when I want, with whomever I want. In this commitment lies the ultimate freedom. The chance for true happiness and long-term serenity.

Yes, I am engaged. I have finally found the perfect partner.

And that person, of course my friends, is me. :-)

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