by Laura E Evans

Created on: May 01, 2008   Last Updated: May 03, 2008

Men usually get the wrap of being the ones who have sex on the brain. If that is true, then why do most women I know the ones who initiate physicality in their relationship? Why do I hear from women that they feel unwanted because they desire physical touch more than the men they love?

Love has a lot to do with it. Anytime a relationship slows down physically the woman assumes that the man doesn't love her as much. Back off the amount of attention she gets in that department and she thinks there is trouble. Personally, I was blindsided once in a relationship because everything was fine physically so I assumed that things were fine emotionally. Turns out, he did not love me and broke it off. To women L-O-V-E is spelled out T-O-U-C-H. Hugs from loved ones show a fondness, so kisses and cuddles from a man means more than friendship.

It is said that women use sex to get love and men use love to get sex. This phrase makes you think that men are the ones pursuing the sex. What this phrase means in my group of friends is that women want to be touched to feel your affection and adoration. And it also says that some men will say anything to get you in bed. These are not the men I am talking about. The men I am talking about aren't afraid of commitment and aren't just looking for a one night stand. The men that I am referencing have "already bought the cow." They are committed to loving, cherishing, honoring, and obeying their woman. Do these vows say they commit to giving up a little fun between the sheets once in a while? Maybe they should. It would show their wife that they still love them as much as the day they said, "I do."

As time goes on in the relationship if he's not in the mood as much, she may also think that there is a possibility that he is no longer as physically attracted to her as he once was. We all know that wives tend to put on a "freshman fifteen" in the first year of marriage. After having children women's bodies change, sometimes permanently. She may think, "my husband was attracted to what I looked like then, not the one I am now."

Some women who feel this way may think that their husband no longer has eyes just for them. They become insecure in the relationship and consider the possibility that their man is checking out or pursuing other women. This can be devastating to the relationship. Once insecurity turns into mistrust the ties that bind man and wife start to loosen.

Some assume that they came on to strong in expressing their desires and her

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