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about the 7th time of being told "She will need more help than other children" Help! Is that all she needed? If that was all then how come I felt like she was about to swim with Sharks? I don't really bother with authoritative figures now unless there is something bothering her at school.

I told my daughter she was Aspergic on her 11th Birthday. I didn't tell her before because I was still getting my own head around it and didn't think she would understand the implications. She simply looked at me and said "well that's ok Mum because that means I'm special" I turned my head away and wept.

Since I told her things have improved a trillion-fold. She now knows why she can't be bothered putting make-up on and she also knows that whatever-his-name is in her class might not go out with her because of her oftentimes obvious difference. She's ambivalent about it now. Takes life in her awkward stride and knows that if her schoolies don't want to know her then it is their loss. Their lives would be even more full and wondrous if they knew how beautiful she really is, inside as well as out. She knows I will help her if she needs help but she has got to the point of making her own mind up. She enjoys her school work and has even started cleaning her own room so she can find her school work! ~faint~

I don't know what the future holds for my precious girl. But whatever it is you can bet I will do my utmost to be there, and will probably have had quite a large hand in it (and a large whisky in my hand!) IF she lets me. I worry about her first love and broken hearts and I worry about her first pregnancy, maybe without me. I lie awake at night fretting over her. I have the most awful nightmares about her, sometimes I can't find her in my dream or I have left her somewhere and I know she won't be able to cope at such a tender age. These nightmares stay with me for days. I buy all her girlie things for her but she has now learned to go into the shop for them herself. There are certain things she has to learn. I will not always be there for her and this makes me so VERY ANGRY! We live in a world of love and it worries me that without that net she will suffer. All these things and more I will worry about until my time is up.

And when she is the next Bill Gates, and she WILL be, I for one will be raining down praise and even more adulation on her. She is at the centre of my Soul and as such my soul will envelope her evermore.

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