by Kenneth Schonmeier

Created on: December 14, 2006   Last Updated: September 17, 2009

It seems everyone has a different opinion of cheating. "If I don't actually have sex with someone else I am not cheating!" or "If a man looks at other women than his wife, he is cheating!" What people need to do is use some common sense and think from both sides.

I am watching TV with my wife and a Victoria secret commercial comes on. Thin, beautiful woman in skimpy lingerie showing ample cleavage through a lace bra. I am a man, so of course I am going to look at it and enjoy every second I can. is that cheating? If my wife sees me drooling she might very well get ticked at me, so I try to glance away once or twice while swallowing as much saliva as I can get down while still filling my eyes as much as I can. But you know what? It is not cheating. I know for a fact that if we are watching a movie and it shows a good looking guys but, my wife will have no problem saying something crude then! Do I get upset? No, I know it is natural for people to look at beauty!

I am with a friend at the mall, and a girl walks by in what we refer to as "Liquid Jeans" for the way they form to the cheeks. Both of us will turn and watch he walk away and try as hard as we can to print the picture to our memory. Do I have any thoughts about actually doing anything sexual with that woman? No! In the very worst it will put me in the mood to beg my wife that night. If a woman is exceptionally beautiful, men will look. I also know for a fact that women will look at men very often as well. I do not think it is wrong to look. Now if I actually go even as far as thinking of "What" I would want to do to that particular woman then that is probably going to far.

Even the bible is similar to this when it talks about sin. For the most part, the bible says we are human and thoughts will pop into our heads. It is not a sin to have a thought. It is the action that is the sin. Yet it also says if we lust after a woman (who is not our wife) and we ENTERTAIN those thoughts then it is the same as if we are doing them. So again, we will see women and enjoy looking at them. That is not cheating. If we go so far as to think about what we would want to do with her? Then we cross the lines.

For the easily offend, please don't read further........

Many men like to look at porn. Whether it be a DVD, magazine, or on-line, a lot of men like it. Even a lot of married men. Is this cheating? Again I think it would come down to certain things. One is how your spouse would like it if they found out. IF they would

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