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This is a pendulum question because the answer is yes and no to both sides.

When a government or status family arranges a marriage, it is done to their benefit. They choose the marriage partners that are best for their political gain and who will continue their prospective without revolution.

If one of the partners, or even both for that matter, agree with the pre-arranged marriage and share the same point of view, then this marriage will succeed as expected and will likely accomplish what it is set out to do. So, for this reason, the answer is yes.

However, for the people who have been pre-selected to marry in these situations, the feelings and reactions can be totally opposite if their mindset is not the same. They may view it as an invasion of their rights and as pre-arranged rape without the intimate emotions hoped for. And for this reason, the answer is no. They are not good because it denies the individuals their right to be loved by their marriage partner.

But are choice marriages any better than pre-arranged marriages? The pendulum swings both ways for this, as well. We need to look at the scope of marriage relationships in our own country and ask if many of them are any different.

There are many homes where people live together as married couples whether they are actually married or just living together - and whose relationships are based on convenience. There is no deep love between the couples and there is no heartfelt intimacy involved. Perhaps they're together because of a child, or perhaps it's because of political convenience, or perhaps it's simply because they don't want to be alone.

Regardless of the reason why a couple is together, if it is for any reason except love, how different is it from that of a pre-arranged marriage? Does it have a better chance of success and is there a future for it?

At least the partners of the pre-arranged marriage will stay together with a home provided for their children, and with the hope that love will grow between the partners because of the children. It will be strong and secure and a refuge for the entire family.

In our country, it is very common for couples to break up and go into other relationships, giving little value to the sanctity of marriage. The children are expected to uproot and just become part of this new entity.

Many of the people in the pre-arranged marriages are likely more at peace and have a better understanding of where their life

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