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In this computer age where every aspect of life rolls as fast as the computer, arranged marriages become an outdated notion. To many, the tradition is cruel and outrageous, even if the primary purpose of this kind of marriage is to attain better social status and security.

In some parts of the world, this is a tradition that is passed from one generation to the next generation and are still practiced. The purpose is sometimes to marry off their child to someone they already know; a friend, sometimes a distant relative or a business associate. But where it is not a tradition, it surely is a practice to be frowned at. I myself is against the practice.

I know of someone who was married off to his father's business associate. The man is half her age when they got married. But she cannot argue with her parents because it is a tradition of theirs. One thing more, the man is twice as rich as her family and marrying the man would mean a secure future. After years of marriage and with a lot of pains that would qualify her to the battered wife bracket, she still thinks her marriage is fine. Her children are put in the best schools and she prefers the arrangement because according to her if she had married a man her age with money. she might be crying everyday. Most of her friends have philandering husbands.

I couldn't picture myself in such an arranged marriage. Just think if you are marrying a man you don't love and you don't know. It is like going into the boxing ring without knowing the performance of your opponent. A man and a woman must know their partners before going into a permanent relationship.

This practice opposes the real meaning of marriage. Marriage being a close union of two persons who make vows for a lasting relationship.

A marriage is a partnership, a union of two people who are attracted with each other. There has to be things in common and compatibility to both parties before marriage. Something that sparked between you and your partner that made you decide to tie the knot with that someone. Marriage is not a commodity that you could buy and give away. It is a sacrament where two people go into because they adore each other and couldn't bear to be apart.

An arranged marriage often result to a relationship that doesn't last. Sometimes this is a cause of broken homes. And it is not surprising because arranged marriages give the man and woman no options. Even in the absence of love, the marriage must go on to conform to the tradition and sometimes to grant a parent's wish. In some cases, arranged marriages are practiced by some who want a escape from poverty, Often marrying off their daughter to a man with money.

In most arranged marriages, parents and guardians are concerned of their children's future. They think they are doing them a favor. They are forgetting one thing though, money is not everything. In marriage, love is the best ingredient for a successful relationship.

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