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I heard somewhere that if you are mourning the loss of a loved one, or are sad, down, depressed that if you write a letter to the one you love it will help you heal emotionally and guess what it is true. I know from personal experience.

I lost a baby at 22 weeks gestation and that was the worst loss I have ever experienced in my young life. For the first few weeks after I couldn't go near the baby section in any store. I couldn't stand to watch tv for fear of seeing a baby. I couldn't hear one, be near one with out wanting to cry. My in-laws came for our wedding and both my sisters' in-laws had toddlers and it tore me up the whole time they were there. I had an ache that one wouldn't believe is possible but it was there. I felt lost, empty, like a failure as a women, scared that it was going to ruin our relationship. I felt lost because I didn't know why it was happening to me. I didn't know what to do to fix it, I didn't know how to react because I was so numb inside. I felt empty because he was gone and I felt like a failure because I couldn't keep him safe until it was time for him to come because my cervix was too short. Scared that my soon to be husband was going to see me as a failure as a women and leave.

My emotions were all over the place and I was having a hard time dealing with it and at my 6 week checkup my midwife gave me some literature about losing a child and some where in there someone wrote a letter to their child and it helped her to heal, so I tried it and yes it does work. My first letter to my son was mainly one of apology for not being able to carry him to term. "My darling son, I am so sorry for not being able to carry you to term safely. I'm sorry that you are gone and I will love you forever and miss you till the day I die. My wonderful child I will never forget you." I wrote in a journal to my son constantly and little by little I started to feel a little less numb and little by little the pain started to ease and actually I still write to him, it's been 10 years now.

Whenever I feel down about something I'll go write my son a letter and feel better when I am done. So yes writing to heal or healing through writing however you want to put it works. Writing your thoughts good and bad down can make the look better and the bad look better too. Sometimes writing is just good for the soul.

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