by Tracey Lamar

Created on: April 27, 2008

Single to some does mean being happy. Why does single mean being happy? Here's what most people don't understand. You must first look at the definition of the word single. Single simply means one. One is considered a whole number. The number one does not need any other numbers to accompany it. It is complete and whole all by itself.

Freedom is a reason to be single and happy. A married person is limited to a point on their freedom because they have a partner to consider. What time are you coming home? Where are you going? These are questions that can be asked once you are married and it deserves some response. There are certain things that you can't do as a married person in comparison to a single person.I really love the idea of marriage but until that special someone comes along I've made a decision to be happy as I am. Before there are questions from married couples about the boundaries that I believe exist within your relationships, I believe marriage is sacred and you should honor your spouses wishes. Which means that you can't hang out all night with your single friends as you did before you were married.

Some believe that being single and happy is hard. Contrary to belief, it's possible to be single and happy. However, humans are innately designed to be loved, valued and appreciated by another person be it family or someone else.

A person can choose to be single but over time not being with someone intimately or emotionally can eventually put a strain on a person emotionally and even physically.

How can you be single and happy? When being single is a choice, you can independently make choices that provide substance in your singleness. For instance, being single doesn't mean that you should be sitting at home on a Friday night watching the same movie for the fifth time alone.

There are so many things that can add spice to your singleness. Joining a local organization that provides scholarship funding for high school students entering college is a way to add value to your singleness. Your church organization may have ministries involving single persons. This is a way to meet new people and cure the loneliness involved with singles. Fitness clubs is a social atmosphere where you can work on yourself physically and meet people as well. There are so many things that you can do as a single person. In addition, it provides fulfillment for you and happiness for others as well.

On the flip side, believing that you can be happy because you are in a relationship with this girl or guy is unrealistic. You can choose to be happy in spite of human imperfections regarding relationships. In essence, you can't depend on individuals to make you happy. Happiness come from within.

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