by Lesha Neace

Created on: April 27, 2008   Last Updated: June 03, 2008

Divorce is always a touchy subject, but when it comes to children, their voice needs to be heard. Divorce is so much harder on children, much more than on the adults. Children seem to think for some reason it is their fault. Children deal with divorce so differently. Each child has their on special feelings about divorce. Couples don't only divorce each other, but in some ways they divorce their children also. It turns their worlds upside down from what they are use to.

The main thing and the main tips are always listening to your children. Make sure you really listen, to make sure they will not do anything that will actually hurt their self. Talk to your children and explain to them that this is not their fault. Tell them that this abuse is not how life is supposed to be like. Let them know how much you love them. Let them know that you will be there for them, no matter what happens. Let them know they are important, and what they say and feel is as equally important. Just make sure to show them how much you love them. Make sure they always know what they think is also important. Above everything I can say, "Listen, listen, listen."

So as the parent make sure to put these tips into action. Your children and young adult's are going to be parents someday. They need to know what to do and how to react to any given situation. In the day that we live in divorce is such a common thing. I think, I was reading a national magazine and it stated," That somewhere around 50/50 end up in divorce." I know that most abuse is never reported in the United States. I know that most of the time if a child has lived in an abusive home that a large portion of them will become abusers themselves. As mothers, we have to remember that this has a lot to do with divorce. This is a tip; I want all mothers to remember for your children, abuse is wrong and if they have lived in abuse, please get them help. I could probably write all day just on this one subject, but it would not be wise. Just remember your children will most likely be parents one day, and they need to understand how to treat this given situation, just in case it arises in their lives.

These tips will help our children understand about divorce. Let your children know this is not their fault. Tell them how much you love them, and that you will always be there for them. Let them know that abuse is not alright, and that they should never abuse or be abused. Whether your kids are small, or whether they are young adult's divorce is hard on them. Explain to them that the life changes will be for the welfare of them, as well as for the parents. Let them know how they feel is important to you as a parent. Let them know you will keep them safe, and out of harms way. The one above them all listen to your children, and how they feel. They have feelings also!

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