by Willow Breeze

Created on: April 27, 2008

Today more and more children are born out of wedlock. Is this a bad thing? Is there a right or wrong to this question?

I feel that if a child is conceived out of love, and is brought into the world by loving parents whether they are married isn't of any importance and really is nobodys business.

I think if two people planned to have a child, and plan to raise the child with the correct manners, ethics and morals that they should have then it shouldn't be a problem. A child should be loved, taught many different things and should be supported.

As long as they have their parents to look up to who support them and love them and are teaching them the necessities of life and how to be a good person, who can make wise decisions, not hurt others and who will treat people with respect, a piece of paper that says they are married has no value.

Do some families insist you should be married before having a child? Ofcourse. I don't think a marriage is what makes you a parent. Who can tell you that being married is the correct way to raise your child? If you both are always there for each other as well as your child you are a family. You created a family, you are raising the family, and you are instilling to the child what was important for the both of you as children.

You want your child to know that no matter what they can always count on the both of you for support and advice. Through thick and thin the one thing that doesn't ever end is the fact you created a life. That life looks up to you to make decisions that will make them proud of you and in turn someday they will need to make decisions that will reflect to you the upbringing you have given your child and hopefully you will be proud of what you have accomplished.

So does it matter if you are married before having a child? In my opinion absolutely it does not matter. What matters is that you are happy with your decision. The decision to be a family, a decision that lasts a lifetime and beyond.

Bring your children up right. Instill manners, respect, dignity, reliability, determination, and in turn don't ever let them down. Stick to what you say. You both have to be in it together to raise a family. You have to support one another. A family is important and like any relationship it takes practice and practice makes perfect.

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