by Trisha Lewis

Created on: April 26, 2008

Well this is something that just happened to me a couple of weeks ago. When I asked my life long friend of 21 yrs to be my maid of honor at my wedding. Plus she was a single woman hoping to find the man of her dreams one of these days.

Her and I are always honest with one another and she told me, "I thought that I would be the first to marry." Which I thought too, but do not get me wrong she was all happy for me. Allthough she was a complete mess when my husband I were doing "I do's" up at the altar.

What to do when you found the man of your dreams and your friend is still out there searching for that right man in her life. Of course if you have the right friend, then she/he will be happy that you are happy and that you found that perfect one to spend for ever with. Although sometimes in the back of your mind, you wonder if she ever envies you. Well, believe it or not I'm sure she does and I know my friend envies you. I mean how could she not when she is still looking for Mr. Right and keeps running into Mr. Wrong.

What do you do when you are in this situation, always have an open ear and listen to what your best friend is feeling. If you feel that your friend needs to vent because she can't seem to find the right one. Don't give any advice, but lend an ear because that is something that she basically she just wants to hear. She doesn't want to hear you saying "well hears what I did." or that "maybe you should do this." Just cause you found Mr. Right, doesn't mean that you are going to be able to fix every problem that she faces in her relationship. She'll love you for it, if you just listen and only give advice if she ask you for it.

Also most friends will feel like after you tie the knot that they are losing their friend. In a way they will, but let them know that there will be times that you can spend together when you need to get away from your significant other. Or you just needs a girl night out. Especially if you found Mr. Right or even married him like me, he will understand when you need alone time.

Try to be there for her when you can. Let her know that she can call you at an appropriate time if she needs to talk. But remind her that there may be times that you won't be available to listen. Especially if she always comes to you with her problems. This is something that will be good for her so she can have a back up plan like going to another friend or family member.

The key is to be honest like in any other relationship. Be honest and communicate with one another.

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