by TBAcademics

Created on: April 26, 2008

Be easy, meaning literally, and not sexually speaking. Enjoy your life; so, you don't scrutinize and later attempt to micro-manage his. Assume the responsibility of attending to your own needs, as opposed to personifying a walking, talking "to-do list". Speak easy; in other words, know when to speak and when to put a sock in it. Remember your first commitment is to yourself; so, earnestly stay young-at-heart. At the end of the day, you're only as youthful or as elderly as your mentality.

If you don't enjoy your own company, is it any wonder that others wouldn't? Once you are your own best friend, a potential boyfriend still has to compete for the title. His competition is not necessarily another male, your parents, or even a girlfriend. Your suitor's number 1, arch rival is YOU, when wearing the hat of "hobbyist". Fun is infectious. Fun is attractive. Fun is sexy and inviting and active. Whether it's working up a sweat in the gym, on the racquetball courts, taking a new class, jet-skiing, the movies, mall or supper-club hopping, a full schedule for you leaves little time to indulge in boredom or sore losing. First, discover what you enjoy about you. What is there to love? Know the whole heap of it; then, get to the business. Undoubtedly, you will increase your visibility traveling or shopping for those books, and this may open a few opportunities to generate admirers, and later, the chance to woo them.

Women who don't have a life tend to borrow, or perhaps steal their boyfriend's. This is not only rude and intrusive, but a bit presumptuous. Not every man was sitting, twittling his thumbs, prior to meeting you. Many men have developed a hobby or two, themselves. The last thing they need, between work, perhaps children, and other responsibilities, is another obligation. Remember, a partner should be a companion, not a project. Dating is not its own Disney World. The man of your dreams is not your summer camp facilitator. Being easy is about flowing with his availability, because you have lots to do, with or without his presence. Essentially, if you're happy with you to begin with, being left alone for a few hours... is not such a bad thing; in fact, it may very well be meant for your enjoying.

Boyfriends are not banks. So, don't confuse them with primary lenders. Boyfriends are not friends with benefits; nor, are boyfriends shopping baskets. There's no need to scribble a list of your needs and wants, and proceed to drop them in his mental rolodex, one by one. It

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