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Why do we always say one thing, but we actually mean the complete opposite?

Ever wonder why our mouth sometimes is stronger than our heart? Sometimes the words just pour out of our mouths like we just learned how to talk and can't control ourselves. Then we get to the bad body body language. You roll your eyes at everything they are saying, you let your eyes wonder away from them, or your arms are fidgety and out of control, then chances are, you probably just made a small stupid, unwanted love quarrel into a huge argument that can linger on and on for days.

So we have to sit back and ask ourselves, do we really care about that person the way we say we do? Yes. Is there some dark hidden reason why we can't open our heart and love the person the way we know they deserve to be loved? Not sure. So then we focus on the unanswered question, what reason do we have for treating them the way we do?

We love more than we were ever taught to but something holds us back. When you think back about past relationships, you think about all of the things that you don't want to do this time around and all of the things that you want to improve on, but something always gets in the way of actually making those improvements. So what do we do? We try harder. We try and try and try again until we get it right. Until we find that middle ground that makes the other person completely loved and that also makes us feel good about ourselves for doing it. How do we do get to that special place? We start at the beginning.....

Ever heard the famous expression, "A circle has no beginning and no end". The same applies to any type of relationship. So the best place to put that boo boo band aid is directly on the wound. If you are not talking to each other or even if you are and all that comes out of your mouth is hateful things, then you have probably crushed the others persons heart, even if it is just a little bit. So start with a hug. A hug is the most powerful form of apology you can ever offer. The warmth of your arms holding someone tight, two hearts beating as one, there is no better feeling than that. Yes, it sounds typical and cheesy but the reality is, not only will you feel better about doing it and taking that first step towards mending the relationship, but you have also sent out the message to the other person that you want to work things out and are sorry for hurting their feelings.

No matter where you are, whether the argument just started, or maybe you have already broken all of the crystal in the house or if you have packed your bags and are driving down the street, do the right thing...STOP, turn that car around and walk up to the one you love and don't say a word, just give them the biggest hug that you have ever given anyone, because that is the person you love and the one that will take care of you. Most importantly though, that is one you want to take care of and love for the rest of your life.

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