by Sabre Lucian

Created on: April 26, 2008

You approached her impulsively. She's willing to let you have your chance. She's thinking: A few dates, we'll see where this goes. You're thinking: How do I make her mine?

The modern world is plagued with romantic disenchantment the fairer sex long to be swept off their feet and transported into fairytales. The paradox: women live with their hearts in a padlock, but their greatest wish is for a man to unlock it and claim the treasures she's guarding within. You might reach the gates through flattery, acknowledging her beauty and her intellect, but to get within her heart, the key is to first enter her spirit.

Whether your goal is lofty romance or you're the Player who likes to print himself indelibly in the ladies' minds, these six steps will guide you in entering a woman's spirit, the code for bypassing any of her inhibitions, and the magic for possessing her passions.

STEP 1: WEAVE MYSTIQUE INTO THE COMMON
Women instinctively know when you're using dating tactics, when you're trying to impress, when you're moving in for the kill (they've been schooled by kin-gender). The trick is to weave threads of mystique into the common dating fabric. Scramble their expectations. You can accomplish this by giving her the niceties she expects, just not when she expects them. Lull her into complacency, borderline disappointment then jolt her with a pleasant surprise. Refrain from getting physical too early on, be unfathomable. Women are intrigued by men they can't figure out, and can't let go of them until they have. So use classic maneuvers, but add variety to them: Appear for the date with no flowers, but have an extra large bouquet delivered just after you've dropped her off; be sphinxlike and cool in conversation but romantic and warm in gestures; send constantly mixed signals, raising her anxiety level, which in turn will raise her interest level. You'll become the puzzle that she tries to piece together during her spare time, and in so doing, she won't even realize she's created a space for you in her heart.

STEP 2: SEND TAILORED GIFTS
Gather all the intelligence that you can on her, using this information to captivate her with unanticipated pleasantries. Dreamlike dates are one thing, but don't allow the novelty to wear off. Punctuate the time between dates with tailored gifts, demonstrating that you were paying attention to more than her assets. Maybe she mentioned her favorites in pop culture: get the latest album, an absorbing book, tickets to a live show for her and

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