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which keeps us from seeing the reality that it's we who create our roles and identity.

I honestly believe that I lost my sight to gain some insight in my life, and ironically, being labeled as disabled has given me the ability to be the best that I can be at mid-life. Do you realize that I still have half my life to do as I please? I am finally free to be me!

THE KEYS TO BEING HAPPILY MIDDLE AGED:

I suppose that I could say today that I've become wise in my old age, but since I am technically only middle aged, I'll share the tips on how you too can deal with it.

1. Find an attitude of gratitude inside of you. Doing so will help you see the reality of what all those times you've already survived gave to you. The gifts with your experience have paved the way to a new and improved identity for you by the time you arrive at mid-life.

2. Remember that age is a frame of mind and that's probably why I feel younger today than I did at twenty-five. Remember this as well: Since we live eternally through God's view of reality, we have all the time we need to become what God intends us to be. Don't panic or be surprised by having to say you're fifty, even if you are actually fifty-one and will soon be fifty-two. Age has nothing to do with the being inside of you. We can be forever young, if we choose.

3. It's never too late to be wild and free. At the mid-life time of life and with an empty nest, you can have fun with the rest. You are free to choose who you want to be and what you want to do in your new and improved reality. At middle age and with fewer responsibilities, the possibilities are even more endless than they were in your youthful days.

4. Be wise this time and don't allow a number to identify you. You don't have to be anything you don't want to be, and besides, you've paid your dues in life. All you need to do every day is pray and say, "Thanks for giving me this opportunity to live the rest of my days the way you intended for me from the beginning, abundantly blessed and free of stress."

5. Don't look at the past or try to see the future. Be blind like me and look at those times through a faded view of semi-reality. The past doesn't last and the future is yet to be, so just be in the present moment and try to see, very clearly, the gifts that have been there all along, along with the gifts that have arrived just in the nick of time. Remember it's true. Hard times in life can be a blessing in disguise, intended to give you a new and improved vision for mid-life.

To Conclude:

Don't get me wrong. I don't claim to know it all, but it's nice to know that I still have half my life to learn and grow.

Hopefully, you won't need to survive so many things in order to see the light and understand what it means to be middle aged. It all depends on your frame of mind and your insight when it comes to life. You see, if I can see the light at mid-life, it must be true that you can too. So please, don't think of being middle aged with doom and gloom. It could possibly be that you're exactly where you wanted to be all along. You've earned your wings, like me, and you're finally free to be you, like I'm finally free to be me.

By the way, next week my new and improved husband and I are going to Cabo San Lucas where we intend to be wild and free for at least a week. After that, I intend to spend my time, abundantly blessed for the rest of my life and that's why I say today that I'll take being middle-aged any day.

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