by Luke Bawden

Created on: April 26, 2008

In a recent survey taken from people in long lasting successful relationships the number one contributing factor was honest communication .You need to be able to communicate your needs and concerns and listen well to your partner .Communication skills are hugely important in all facets of life from how we relate at work to the way we help shape our children's lives .In the words of S Covey " Seek first to understand and then to be understood "

Effective communication is far more complex than many understand and it is so important in all walks of life .As an example look at communicating our objections around children's bad behavior we must insure that they understand it is the behavior we don't like and not them .The other important factor is a large part of communication is nonverbal that being body language and tone of address.

The wisdom of age and experience enhance our skills but we must be proactive and work to polish those skills because they can prove so helpful in lives adventure . There are not many things in life that cost nothing but greatly improve your chances of gaining a much smoother ride along the way but manners are one of the few also highly valued and respected everywhere .Manners communicate so much they speak volumes about who you are and how you were brought up . People respond so much differently if there's a nonjudgmental tone of respect .

With regards to work, firstly you must earn the respect of your peers and then robust communication can start in earnest . They say a happy work force is twenty percent more productive and also safer so take the time to understand your workforce and then communicate your needs .As an employee being able to communicate your needs and desires gets better results for all concerned .Personal appraisals are a great forum for beneficial feedback for all in the equation because understanding both sides opinions promoter understanding and respect. One of our top needs as humans to to feel heard and understood and from the the barriers start to crumble. Building a team of people who want to be part of a work place where they can honestly say they love the job and feel part of something . Feeling heard and valued makes for an environment conducive to honest communiques bristling with fun and happiness .

Humor is a great tool to break the ice and to make all attending feel more comfortable this often puts people on a more level playing field . With humor there is also the bonus of being able to say things in a way that is less offensive . Being able to laugh at yourself is a great attribute and helps hugely in putting people at ease . Another very important communication is apologizing even as a parent dealing with children you must role model the behavior you want your offspring to aspire to . If you get it wrong apologize to your children they will appreciate your honesty and integrity .The stronger the bond of trust and love the more likely it will be for them to feel confident in coming to you on the big calls .

The communication's we share through our lives are a pure delight when going well so take the time to listen to others and communicate your needs and desires .

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