Ten Things I Want To Do in The Next 20 Years

1) To be the best mom I can be to four children who have undergone traumas of abuse, emotional and sexual. This has been one of my lifetime goals. As a nine day old baby I was adopted and always wanted to have children. I was taught by my parents that you don't have to be a biological child to be loved unconditionally.

I am a step-mom of two boys and two girls who are beautiful children. I have been blessed with experiences one couldn't even begin to imagine. Each child was by my side when my mother passed away. One of them sat on my lap and the others comforted my siblings. Who could ask for more in this type of situation!

2) I hope to see my husband healed from our car accident that happened three years ago. Since this accident he has suffered black outs, vertigo, bulging disks and more. Our faith in God has brought us this far and will take us farther. My husband was falling like a tree two years ago and hasn't fallen for 6 months now. This might seem simple to some but it is huge progress to us.

I hope to walk the beach with my husband and dogs much more and listen to the waves. Feeling the water rush in and out as you walk is a peaceful feeling.

3) Graduate from College with a bachelor's degree in Psychology. My father always wanted to see me go to college. He is looking down and cheering me on. I am a junior in college at thirty-seven years old.

4) I want to become a grandma. The kind of grandma mine was. My oldest step child is 17, so this hope is not too far off.

5) Have a house to call a home, not just a place to live. My husband and I did exactly this two years ago and I call it my home. We enjoy our large garden and participate in a local farmer's market. We love our yard, our dogs and our children.

6) Become an a woman owner of a company. I am currently owner of Vaassen Reclamation, LLC.
We are a company that recycles items as well as reclaims them. We save items from going to the landfill and restore them.

7) To travel to the Southern states of Georgia and Florida each Winter when we are retired and tired. I hope to purchase a new fifth wheel camper and live in it. We will have no taxes to pay on a property and little maintainence on our "home." It will be a pleasure to invite the grandkids down to visit.

8) To be true to myself and to get old gracefully and naturally. I will always be natural and no part of me will be fake. No tanning for me..no made up look, just a natural one.

9) To learn the most about my soul mate that I can and grow old together side by side. We have been married a short two years and have been together for five years. This is the second marriage for both of us.

My husband is a fascinating man with much to teach me. Each conversation is a new subject that opens another door of our lives.

10) To make a difference in this world, one day at a time and one smile at a time.

For now, these are my aspirations for my life. Perhaps some day they will change. For now, they are simple, realistic and achievable. I have accomplished a simple view of life that is much different than my upbringing of materialism. I have found contentment with who I am and for what I have, instead of focusing on what I don't have and WANT. For that I am proud.

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