by Budianto Dermawan Ng

Created on: April 24, 2008

Secure her emotional needs and you will gain a continuous love from a woman.

"I'd gifted her everything, but she's still unhappy. What does really she want?"

You think by gifting her more wealth will make her happier and ease you in treating her. In fact, you will receive a contrary outcome that she's not. You start asking a question to yourself about what she really wants. In the meantime you decide to stop the gift.

On the other side, she's lost track of you. Her emotional receiver's hampered by your emptiness. She's currently sending her emotional out at all times. As soon as she's in an emotional shortage, her emotional machine's overheated and she feels overwhelmed.

The emotional state's changing phase from confidence into a great vacillation. Her emotional is constructing a multitude of emotional questions regarding about your disappearance. She's collecting your emotional answers by asking with those emotional questions. But your reply is not the answer she's expecting for. She feels you're not emotionally listening to her. Then she compounds the intention's doubtfulness about your love. In the meantime she'd also decided to stop the gift.

"Gushy! She acts like a mother who teaches the kids. I ain't an old baby. I'm her husband!"

You don't have to become herself to gain her love. She's just expecting you to secure her emotional by your empathy. You had done this since your childhood with your mother in past time. Realize her way of pouring the emotional (love) to you until she felt overwhelmed and was mad at you as if she's blamed on you. How do you face her condition at that time?

You just cried it out and she's the less mad at you. You didn't argue her back because you respected her as your parent who'd risen you. Her emotional had recognized your empathy by crying it out. The same work with your wife's emotional. She'll feel better if emotionally you'd listen to her emotional. Once her emotional has been filled again by your empathy, she won't be easily felt overwhelmed because of emotional dehydration.

But on the contrary, your mother will felt emotionally assaulted if you increased the level of crying tones. She'd increase the portion of the anger by taking a rattan to punish you. Your wife will do the same thing if she's always received the emotional assault from you. She'll block herself and reject everything from yourself including having sex. She feels insecure about you. You feel you'd failed to satisfy your woman. Lately, quarrels and suspicions will be the most likely colors in your relationship.

"How to win a woman's love?"

She's a very beautiful creature of arcane and she's not like a man who's a pride tangible one. She admires your tangibility but she'll pour her real love if you can understand her arcane. A man who thinks she's entirely a tangible one then he will never gain her real love. A tangibility has a fixed shape while arcane is an undulate one.

That's why most of man's lose on his nerve to understand a woman's arcane using his tangibility concept.

Use your empathy by providing a secure environment to her emotional is the best way to gain a woman's love. No matter how many physical or expensive gift you gave her, but she'll not be satisfied if you'd neglected the support for her emotional needs. When she mentions that you did not understand her then you'd been warned by her emotional.

Learn and use your empathy for gifting her emotional and you'll win a woman's love.

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