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I've always been better at communicating through writing. Growing up I picked up that telling people what they want to hear was more effective then telling the truth. I think I unconsciously preferred writing because in that I could tell the truth. Trying to communicate face to face and tell the truth was something I never witnessed as a child. Bullsh* was what I witnessed. It seemed that lying to someones face kept you out of trouble and made them happy. Someone reading this now might say, "That's terrible that you learned that." But honestly its the same way the world communicates today.

I realized that writing was the only time I was completely honest with myself and others. My family and friends have always praised me on my letters, poetry, or short stories; speaking of how honest and deep they are. I've always wondered why I couldn't be that way in general, you know just speaking to someone. I think it depends on your childhood. If you were lucky and trust everyone then honest communication probably comes easier to you. But if your like most of us who grew up in the real world then you navigate. You study your surroundings and figure out who with and when you can be honest.

And then there are those people who profess to honesty in all aspects of their lives....really? I beg to differ. And if I'm wrong then I have to be honest with you. You are someone everyone else calls an Ass*. You know, those people who never take in account your feelings because they believe honesty is the best communication no matter what. I've never met a person like that whom I've liked. Sometimes its best to have respect for others feelings instead of feeding your righteous ego. The reality of life is harsh and for people who have been told that honesty is the only way but at the same time have witnessed lies are the way to get what you think you want, it can be quite confusing if not traumatic.

The fact is every person is different and every person has had a unique upbringing. Communication differs from person to person. Some can deal with honesty but most cannot. As unique as a person is, so must be the method in which they are communicated to. General communication (whatever that is) is not universal. You must get to know an individual before knowing the correct communication in which to truly reach them honestly.

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