by Midna Vella

Created on: April 19, 2008

In order to listen to your inner voice, you need to first master how to block out all of the other voices. Of course I mean the outer voices that we're bombarded with everyday, from our parents, from the media, friends, etc. However, I am also speaking about the inner voices that reflect the parts of ourselves that are afraid. I'm sure you know these voices well; the ones who are scared to death of change, the ones that believe that we are simply not good enough.

We need to realize that we were not born with these inner voices. These superficial voices reflect what have been told to us over our entire lives. We weren't born believing that we were inferior or superior to anything else. As a parent, I know now that it is virtually impossible not to pass on these fears onto your children. They are so ingrained that even if you try your best, you are still harming your dear children. It's difficult to accept, but we must if we are to become aware of all of the voices, for our sake and for our children.

Going against both the inner and outer voices can be a daunting task. I've been lucky in that I get a thrill from rebelling! I still feel the fear; maybe more than others, but I could never just accept a reality that didn't jive with my vision. I'm sure I've driven my family crazy over the years. However, taking the plunge all the time can also bring it's problems. Sometimes I do things because I'm running away from a situation. This is the same as fear of change. In both situations, the true inner voice is not being heard and honored. Discernment is the key here.

It is vital to look at your desires to see what the true motivation is. This takes practice, but the more you do it, the more you will know your true inner voice. One of the main ways to do this would be to find your inner quiet. Our inner voices are the softest ones! We must practice to see passed the loud voices that do not have our best interests at heart. You will inevitably make mistakes and will be influenced by other forces in the decisions you make. It is, therefore, also important that you evaluate your feelings after a decision is made, whether you thin it was made consciously or not. Your feelings, if you look at them honestly, will never lie and will always tell you what is really going happening.

Finding quiet time to hear your inner voice and evaluating your feelings are vital steps to becoming true to yourself. There is, however, another important task we need to do: BE KIND TO YOURSELF. We are trying to change thousands of years that have been passed down. We will fall along the way, but we need to love ourselves and be grateful for having this chance to grow. As we heal, we will naturally pass this on to others and will hopefully have a significant impact.

Happy healing!

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