by Amanda Blank

Created on: April 17, 2008

After browsing several articles on this topic, I must say that I side with the idea that one is not greater than the other. Giving and receiving runs in cycles, if we give, we receive. I feel that it is important to realize the significance of the act of receiving as well as giving. I agree with those writers who have said that giving is like receiving, it's a great joy to share what you have with those in need, however I have recently been on the receiving end of such a gift. My family went through three very difficult months following major health issues concerning my father and grandfather. Everyone in my household was stressed and near breaking, we were struggling under the weight of finances and doctor concerns. Through all of this, I cannot remember one day where someone from our church or circle of friends did not call, send a card, or stop at our house. Many people brought meals, some sent financial support, there were a few ladies that cleaned the house for us, and everyone offered their prayers. I cannot describe to you how much this meant to our family.

At times it is hard to accept charity from others, but there comes a point in everyone's life where receiving is not only necessary, but invigorating. We can learn to give generously when we have been given too generously. Learning to both give and receive is a valuable addition to our life's experience. We cannot always feel the full effect of our giving unless we have received a similar gift.

Therefore I believe that receiving strengthens our ability to give, thus making these two ideas equal in context. One cannot exist without the other. It is easy to follow society's norm and spit out a hearty, "YES!" when asked this question, but deeper thought may teach you something new.

John Welwood says, "There is a secret about human love that is commonly overlooked: Receiving it is much more scary and threatening than giving it. How many times in your life have you been unable to let in someone's love or even pushed it away? Much as we proclaim the wish to be truly loved, we are often afraid of that, and so find it difficult to open to love or let it all the way in." Indeed, an important aspect of love and acceptance lies in our ability to not only give, but to receive. While giving may seem more "noble" or "praiseworthy", we must not belittle the receiver.

Let us continue to give generously, enjoying the fulfillment of sharing our blessings, but let us not overlook the importance of learning to receive gracefully, knowing that our thankfulness contributes to the joy of others.

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