by Ellen Layug

Created on: April 17, 2008   Last Updated: January 19, 2009

"What?" I was flabbergasted about the news my friend/officemate told me about. What was more surprising was the fact that I was the last to know in the office when in fact, I know her most than anyone else in the office do. "Really?"I still couldn't believe what I was hearing and a lot of questions are flooding in my head. She hid this very well from everyone here in the office and probably from her family and friends too!

She's very pretty, in fact, a lot of guys had a crush on her when we were in college so much so when an officemate I dated a few years back told me that he's got a crush on her too, I couldn't help myself to ask what it is about her that attracts men. "She's pretty and simple" he answered. Yes, she's very simple and that makes her naturally pretty. Even after she graduated from college and incidentally was hired to work in the same company where I work for here in Michigan, she hasn't changed, pretty yet very simple. I am two years her senior but our paths crossed when we were both elected as student council officers. That's right! She's also smart and intelligent, her name is always on the Dean's List. So who could have thought that, what I've all along presumed, an almost perfect woman is actually a lesbian?

"It is not that being a lesbian makes me or any LGBT less of a person" she said. It took me months to find the guts to ask her about being a lesbian and her decision of coming out. "But for everyone else who is not an LGBT, it is considered an abnormality. And although a lot of my kind [LGBT], some are even celebrities like Ellen DeGeneres, has come out, what they did inspired me but only very little. It is not a very easy thing to do specially if people in the community thinks that it is a curse to be one" she added.

When and how did it start, I asked her. "I really do not know how it started but I begin to be wonder about my preference when I was in college. Why I admire girls more than guys. Why I am more happy being in the company of a girl than with a guy. Why I love reading women's magazines but not in the purpose of looking glamorous like their models. Why I never felt that thing my girl friends talk about whenever they're with their boyfriends. I thought that, maybe because I have different priorities, that my preference and my feelings are a bit different from other girls and that in time, this will change when my priorities changed."

"Did it?" I asked. "It did, for the worse. After I graduated from college, I decided to have a

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