by Lynette Alice

Created on: April 17, 2008   Last Updated: February 08, 2009

Is there anything that is worse than a pick-up line? At some point we've all had them used on us and whether we want to admit it or not tried them out on someone else as well. Think of how often those lame advances have worked and it is pretty evident there has to be a better way to get your foot in the proverbial door. Luckily there is and that is opener.

The difference between the two is far from subtle. A pick-up line no matter how good it is can be spotted before it's over. The opener however is very clever icebreaker. It doesn't have that creepy overtone that immediately puts a persons radar up. A further bonus is the opener is multi-directional. You may have a specific person in mind when delivering it, but it can reach out and engage an entire group of people bettering the users odds of finding someone receptive to them.

Ask yourself this one simple question, do you really believe telling someone their clothes would look good on your bedroom floor is likely to get a positive response? I use that just as an example because believe it or not people are still dragging that out as old and tired as it is. Now in all honesty, I have responded to it in the past. I've responded by turning my back on the person. I've emptied a drink in the persons lap. I've spread the rumor in the bar that the person had a yet unnamed and untreatable version of herpes that could spread by eye contact. Now if that's the type of response you're looking for, by all means stick with the pick-up lines.

However if you make your approach and break the ice effectively without giving off to a person the feeling they need disinfectant just being near you, then you have a great chance of succeeding. As a bright person you decide the opener is a better option than pick-up lines, but you have no idea what a good opener is. A good opener is simple and non-threatening. The best openers in fact are the ones that don't even appear to be openers.

Over many years I have actually missed a few used on me and for the sake of fighting loneliness around the world I'll share one so you can have an idea of what does work. Now this may sound corny but it did work. If you deliver the opener well which is something you will just have to practice, you are on your way to the promised land. Remember to be confident at all times.

The best openers are the ones in which you ask for help or advice. It's hard to turn someone in need down, especially if it is a man that is secure enough to ask a woman for aid. I

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