by Jesse Creedero

Created on: April 16, 2008

Okay, I'm just going to be real here, and if I step on any toes, please forgive me. First of all, I realize that everyone has a different sexual drive, but at the same token when two people get married there should be an understanding that sex is part of the deal. Being a Christian, I do believe the scripture "Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband, let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence and likewise the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power over her own body but the husband and the husband hath not power over his own body but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time that ye may give yourself to fasting and prayer, and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for you incontinence (I Cor 7:2-5)."

Now, I realize that a lot of you may not believe the same way I do, and that's cool, I respect that. But one thing I have found out is these principals really do work. Here, both the man and the woman have equal rights to enjoy one another in holy matrimony. We're not suppose to be hurting one another by rejecting one another, my God, don't we have enough pain and sorrow in our lives as it is? We are meant to come together in a special bond like no other, to be able to have a foundation of trust, love, and respect. The fact of the matter is, we all want the same thing, male and female alike: we want to be able to have, maintain, and enjoy a loving, long lasting spiritual connection with the person we love, and not feel betrayed, rejected, lied to, or demoralized. We were never meant to treat each other that way, and yet, when we hurt one another, inevitably, we will always suffer the consequences. My husband says, "Loving someone else should never be about you, it's suppose to be about the other person." If it really is a selfless act to love the other person, why do we have a tendency to hurt the ones we love?

I'll tell you why. None of us want to take responsibility for making mistakes in our relationships. None of us really want to see the flaws our spouses see and deal with every day and choose to overlook for the most part. When our love life suffers, it usually boils down to a control issue, a hurtful attitude, a disregard for the others feelings, and a desire to retaliate. Sometimes a partner will choose to react to an outburst of anger or a hurtful word by with holding intimacy because the other spouse hurt them, and then they

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