by snoblind

Created on: April 16, 2008

The power of words , if this isn't a matter close to my heart.This is one subject, that I feel I may speak of, in a manner, with some experience . Some lessons in life are best learned the hardest of ways . I speak to you now with a heavy heart , from letting words change the way people look at me for the rest of my life . Just as a simple gesture , like a simple smile to a stranger in the morning, can change that persons day , words simply spoke in hate can change one's life forever.

The first time I thought I was in love , betrayal and resent crept into our relationship. Followed by mistrust and contempt that began to surface into the conversations, and all useful communication fell short of helping the situation. The last resort was for us to prod at the past and dig into the worst of ourselves , and attack that. Name calling and dirt throwing got all to common. The final straw was when I told her " Go ahead take your fat ass and leave!" Well thats all it took the first chance she got she planned well , and got out .

I still sometimes wonder how it would have turned out .

The second time it bit me in the ass , was when my current wife (yes , I said current)were having problems . She was threatening to move out . My reply was always "go ahead, but don't expect me to pine over you !" You don't know how I wish I'd never said that. She became very independent after that and moved out of our home . We went our separate ways and started growing apart, even though we didn't want to divorce because of the finality of it all. It has taken me years to start over again and we have lost precious years finding each other again . It pains me to think of the wounds we have to yet repair from years past . But we are learning to trust each other again. All over words spoken in anger.

To summarize , Pick your battles wisely . Let the little stuff go, it may not matter tomorrow. If your best friend tells you a secret , NEVER use it against them . Mind what you say , it may stay with someone for a long time after it is spoken , and after it is it may just change your life , too. Remember , sometimes words are sharper than knives.

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