by L.D. Gray

Created on: April 16, 2008

Relationships, specifically of the romantic sort, are very personal. Overtime we mature and grow into who we are and those relationships are a big part of our development. Some people have a limited amount of romantic experience when they marry, while others have spent many years seeking the one for them. It is not dishonest or unfair for a wife to keep her romantic past a secret.

Certainly, some things are important and should be shared between partners. Such as, have you been tested for STDs? If so, do you currently have any? If so, are you taking any medications to treat it? Or have you had any in the past? Do you have any children? Other things should only be shared on a need-to-know basis or only if both partners are completely comfortable sharing and receiving the information. For instance, some people are okay sharing their number of past sexual partners, others don't mind discussing their strangest sexual encounter, and yet others are comfortable talking about every dirty detail. These types of discussion cannot and should not be forced on an unwilling partner, nor are they necessarily useful in advancing any relationship.

Women enter into new relationships with a degree of hope; usually this hope is for a future with the new partner. They act and relate to their current partner in a way that they hope will prolong the relationship. This hope can be extinguished by the other partner or maybe it fades over time. Nonetheless this hope acts as a guide during relationships, guiding each action and each emotion.

A wife's romantic past is not a dirty "secret" to be hidden away in a closet. It's not something she should be ashamed of. Her past relationships have taught her many lessons and given her insight into herself, as well as into the kind of man she ultimately wanted to marry. In the event she's confronted with something from her past she shouldn't have to explain it. She had no obligation to her future husband at the time of her past actions. She is simply under no duty to share every detail of her past nor should she be expected to.

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