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Many times people have asked me why my husband and I are still married. The answer is simple. I believe that the vows we took almost 38 years ago are sacred. We vowed to one another and to God that we would be there no matter what happened. And, our promises would last until death.

It was at the wedding at Caana that Jesus performed his first miracle thus making marriage a sacred event. Nothing has changed in the 2000 years since. When you see marriage as a sacred commitment, you want it to be a fulfilling part of your life. You know that whatever happens your spouse will be there for you. Children born in such a marriage will grow up with a sense of commitment.

Every marriage is different as it involves two people. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Using each other's strengths makes two people with one will. My husband is an engineer and a detail person. I'm a writer and more of a big picture person. He is a wimp. I'm a hard ass. When the bank wanted more for a down payment before the mortgage group met, my husband was ready to cash in our stocks and bonds and give it to them.

I said that was a load of hooey. I called the guy and asked what had changed knowing that nothing had. He conceded that point and I said we would go with what we had already agreed upon. Of course, we got the mortgage and our stocks and bonds stayed in the bank.

This is how the sacred bond works on a daily basis. My husband and I have very different interests. But, we do share our faith in a loving God who is the heart of our marriage. We turn to God for guidance, for comfort, for strength, for courage, and for forgiveness when we slip up. We worship together on Sunday which renews us for the week ahead.

If marriage isn't sacred, then it's disposable. In an age of pre-nups and do-it-yourself divorce, the sacred element of marriage seems to be on the wane. Families are the foundation of any society. We all must restore the idea of marriage as a scared trust. A union not to be entered into lightly. But with serious consideration of what a marriage should be.

Those of us who believe in the sacredness of marriage should let that image of marriage set the standard. We must let people know, as I did, that our wedding vows were more than words. They were a lifetime commitment to each other.

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