by R.E. Hay

Created on: April 15, 2008

The cognitive beginning of a relationship always seems to be the absolute state derived from the precise definition of perfection. All the madness from being swept away in one single word, love. You meet this new and exciting person. You spend all your free time with them. You dote over the quirks that makes them unique in your eyes. If you like this person, you hope the "L" word will follow the term like. It is at this beginning stage you are falling in love. Even though there are many hesitations, a person always rest on the fact that just maybe this person is different from all the rest. This boy or girl has the attributes that will make them your forever partner. It is easy to want to see the good sides of a relationship at this stage. It is even easier to discount the negatives and try not to be a so called "Debbie downer" or a "negative Nancy." After all, with the shape of the world many people just desire to believe that there is some good left in this world. We face (as Americans) a failing economy, an inflation in our daily living standards, a war that seems to have no end, and a health care system in complete chaos. Should we not believe within this world that was created mostly for us and partly by us that there is still this simple pleasure of love? We can still delight in the smile and the laugh of another human. We can feel comforted by the small fact that we do not face a collapsing environment alone. We have someone else who sees the good in us even when we don't see it in ourselves. These facts are the best sides of love. It is a joyous occasion to find the "other half" to ourselves. By believing in such a union of two people coming together to create a bond of one, we are in many ways naive to the bad side of love.

It is this dark side people often overlook for the sake of the good side. In one simple word that took months to create is the true foundation to the good and bad sides of love. The word is trust. We met a stranger only months before, we got to know them, and we fell in love with them. It is naive to think we know this stranger like we know ourselves, but we hope. We hope that they will never deceive us. We hope they will be committed to only us. We hope we can depend on them in our time of need. The bad side of love will rear its ugly head in the worst of times. It is a simplistic mind to believe that one person can truly be the complete opposite of all the evil wrong doers in our past. As much as one can believe this is different,

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