I had sex with my boyfriend on our first date. I do not regret my decision at all. We were not strangers, and I knew I had feelings for him. He also had intense feelings for me. When the date seemed to be over, I kissed him good night. He is a wonderful kisser, my knees felt weak, and I was overcome with desire. I knew it was right. I had no second thoughts or doubts when I led him inside my apartment and slept with him on our first date.

In our case, that decision only made our connection more intense. We became connected on another level. We will celebrate our ten year anniversary this year, and we are going to make it official and get married when I turn thirty. I have a theory that I am not ready yet, although I want to marry him. As a college student, who is going to graduate in one year I need to wait until I have graduated, as the stress of a wedding would interfere with my education.

Sex on a first date is not the right choice for everyone. It is all based upon your personal beliefs and feelings about the person you are on the first date with. I would not have had first date sex with anyone else. I knew that my boyfriend was special, and I could see myself with him in a long term situation. I would not have put myself out there like that for just anyone, and I knew how he felt for me. If I didn't feel the same I would not have lead him on.

If you are looking for casual sex, let that be known. If you just want to get busy, some guys will be happy to accommodate your needs without complaint. However some men want a serious relationship, and first date sex could really lead them on if you are not looking for a serious monogamous relationship. I think consensual first date sex is perfectly acceptable if that is what you are looking for!

If you really like someone, and you are sexually interested in them, it is your decision. First date sex doesn't mean you are a bad person, or the guy won't commit. In my case, my boyfriend and I ot really serious really fast. I am glad I had sex with him the night of our first date. When I am honest, I wanted to have sex with him before the date. The date wasn't really necessary for the sex. I am so glad we went on the date, began a relationship and got to know one another sexually. I have no regrets about my first date sex.

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