I know this is a question for Dads, but I'm a single mom from a "once upon a time" marriage.  Stuff happens, but we survive and move forward. 

Through the years I sat my kid down and talked until I was blue in the face, while he developed "selective hearing":)   

What kids don't reveal is that our words of wisedom DO penetrate their boneheads on some level. 

My son was taught whether it be of a personal, professional or social nature (ladies included), beware of eye contact, the strong/weak handshake; always be true to yourself 'cause liars must have good memories; love and respect yourself, then others will do the same. You are judged by the company you keep. You can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends.

In my travels, I am blessed to receive the reapings of my "solo" parenting efforts. Compliments flow regarding my gentleman of a son. 

Don't be mislead, he has his moments and shortcomings like any other red-blooded offspring, but given the entire picture, he is living proof that nothing is impossible with patience and perserverance. 

They say Rome wasn't built in a day....I say it was: They brought sandwiches:)

Hi Lori,

You're an inspiration to me a single mom with a ten year old boy. I've chosen to remain single again for religious reasons. 

Well-meaning friends have been trying to get me a second man. Sometimes I think perhaps for my son's welfare I might, yet when he says that I can only kiss female toddlers and no other guy but him, it's better if I don't.

My tip: always spend quality time to explain the whys and why nots. Even for the silliest sounding questions.  

Hey Lokeman Magar:)

Thank you for your comment and I hope you see my reply as well. 

As for a second chance at love, you might want to wait on that score. Kids from "single-parenting" are vulnerable and have the need to soak up tons of affection.  If  you choose to date, be sure to introduce the gentleman to your little guy. Then ask your son's feedback. This way you are keeping him in the loop and he can begin to recognize and understand that he can share mommy and still have her to himself.

Relationships come and go, but our kids are forever and they WILL remember the good, the bad and the ugly.

Good luck and good news:)

Ooops!  I apologize ...."Lokemun" 

Hi Lori,

My name - I'm just Mun to make it easy to call (Mun as in rhymes with Sun, Run, Fun, Nun..:-) And don't worry about the Lokeman part. You may know a Lokman.:)

Your advice - You're so right about the second chance and at love and son thingy. I'm kept so happily busy at work, home and Helium that there's no time for a second chance even if I want. I've great former colleagues who have set the great example as you advised and they are so blissfully secondly married now - pardon my bad English.

Mun     

Hi Lori,

My name - I'm just Mun to make it easy to call (Mun as in rhymes with Sun, Run, Fun, Nun..:-) And don't worry about the Lokeman part. You may know a Lokman.:)

Your advice - You're so right about the second chance and at love and son thingy. I'm kept so happily busy at work, home and Helium that there's no time for a second chance even if I want. I've great former colleagues who have set the great example as you advised and they are so blissfully secondly married now - pardon my bad English.

Mun     

Hi Mun

I sent you an email via Betaville Zone, sharing my thoughts and ideas on raising that little guy. 

Enjoy your day - Chat soon:) 

Lori,

You just discovered one of the greatest assets of Groups.  Finding like-minded people to share ideas and help!

Hope you enjoy the rest of the forums!

Ann Marie

Hi Anne Marie

Yes, the concept is being able to relate intelligently. I know what my speciality genres are; hence I subscribe to that particular Forum.

Thank you and have a gr8 day:)