When it comes to political scandal, what's worse: Financial chicanery or a sexual peccadillo?

Peccadillo

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by Judy Joyce

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POLITICAL SCANDAL: FINANCIAL SLIGHT OF HAND OR PECCADILLOS - WHERE CHARACTER MATTERS MOST OR JUST A LIBIDO FACTOR?

I know, I know. When one expresses concern about anything involving adult consensual sex, the first thing that leaps (and I mean "Leaps") into the mind of the reader is something akin to a mental burning-at-the stake. Who, afterall, would take seriously anyone who is so narrow-minded, so out-of-touch with human history, so judgmental in matters that are private as between partners, that any reader would want to waste their time enduring an author who bespeaks such nonsense. Have you gotten this far or are you ready to burn all my books?

So. Here I go. I am taking the plunge. I am spewing out the truth as I see it. Here goes.The mismanagement of money, even when rising to the level of larceny, fraud or grand theft, can never and should never be compared with sexual mismanagement in the political arena. Financial matters, in politics, involve transfers of wealth that may or may not effect any single human being directly. Assaults on one's cash, at most, is an indirect assault on those who contributed it. Sexual trysts, however, always involve two individuals directly. Each is taking something directly from the other. It is not always clear if either is giving anything. This is far more serious.

A peccadillo, from the Spanish, means a slight offense. However, application of the term in polite Anglo company, masks what is really meant - an affair. No offense, not even a slight one, can occur without the component of misunderstanding between two parties where an affair is involved. In contract law, this would mean agreeing to the benefit of the bargain when the benefits cannot be known. Benefits and bargains are not subject to risk management. In the course of sexual human affairs, those components can never really be known. Adults know this. Politicians are adults...at least in the chronological sense. They have trafficked in human sex. It is the worst crime of all.

When trafficking in human sexuality and the bargain made in the process there are life changing factors that are always involved. Afterall, a "peccadillo" does not even involve the exchange of money. What is being exchanged here that is worthy of such focus goes way beyond the dollar bill.

The exchange that results in misunderstanding the terms of the agreement to engage in an affair is not subject to the rules of equity that might allow for recission. Recission of an entire emotional field that comprises the partners who give of themselves to each other is not a remedy for the aggrieved party. Rather, it is a direct assault upon the very essence of who they are.

Someone is rejected in this process as no commitment results. Rejection, at it's core, attacks the very fiber of our humanness. Sexual rejection is a level where there is no remedy. Years may pass and one might forget just how much money it is that they lost when politicians steal from us. More likely than not, we can say " I lost a lot of money" or "my life savings" or "my retirement". This is indicative of just how deep the wound goes. But when a sexual loss is at stake, names can be given, times, dates, hotel rooms, the last encounter before the phone calls stopped, the final words said. The loss is in the heart of the loser. Sexual loss makes one believe they are a loser at some level. Financial loss makes the world see the politician, once exposed as "the loser". Better the politician than the partner where human dignity is concerned. Protecting Human dignity is my first concern. Now go burn this if you must.

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