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Sexual promiscuity: Standards are looser for men than for women
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Disagree
by Nathanael Dominguez
Created on: August 06, 2008
Promiscuity: Who's on Top
The answer to this question depends on if you are asking your family, society, your creator, or the opposite sex. The family's view to female promiscuity hasn't changed much, and God's point of view on promiscuity hasn't changed at all. What about society or the opposite sex? Have things loosened up for women and the stigma promiscuous women receive?
Things have changed in the area of how open women can be about promiscuity. Women now-a-days seem to be able to talk about sex more openly, and few blush at the topic. Are women held to a different standard by society then men? The media seems to think it's fine to make top stories about celebrity women being less then saintly. Although, people still look at these women as loose, and certainly they fall out of the category of a lady, society does not react with shock. Some of these scandals even help to promote their careers.
Though things have loosened up a little for women, they haven't changed enough for them to be placed in the same standard as men were once held. What has happened is the standard toward men has been brought up. I believe society's outlook has become stricter towards male promiscuity. With all the laws out there about sexual harassment, men have to watch their P's and Q's. If a girl looks good to a guy, he better watch how he approaches the situation. If the media is covering a male sex scandal, he is probably on trial or going to jail. Also men are being labeled as pigs or womanisers if they come onto women or have multiple partners.
Even in the real world, men hold each other to higher standards. A past coworker of mine use to boast to the other male employees about his weekend encounters. Instead of hoisting him on our shoulders and throwing him a "man of the year" party, we felt bad for the guy and hoped he would grow up. It was just a sad sight to see. It is good to know there are still men and women that hold themselves to higher standards then the ones set by the media. I think society has upped the standards for men and lowered the standards for women enough to place them on more equal playing fields.
As far as how males look at female promiscuity this has not changed much. Though sex is on males' minds and most would jump at the chance for it, for the long haul men are still looking for a less promiscuous woman. Don't believe it? Ask around. The amount of men a woman sleeps with still matters. A signature or a piece of art work is not worth much if it is handed out often and freely. Honestly, would you rather go to the movie theater and watch an epic film about a man who gives everything up for a promiscuous woman or a non-promiscuous woman.
Though promiscuous women are held to similar standards as men by society now, men still look up to and desire the same type of women they always have. There is something about a non-promiscuous woman that will always be alluring and desirable. It is refreshing to know that there are women out there who can still inspire men to more then a quick release, and I hope women don't believe that what the media portrays is acceptable to all.
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Agree
by Rebecca Mendez
Created on: March 10, 2011
It is difficult to agree that there isn't a bias in gender towards promiscuity. The general populace of society has the most common opinion that it is unacceptable for women to have a broad sexual background. Such experience is frowned upon due to the image that a woman should portray. Men do not often face similar criticism as women do unless under certain circumstances.
Most individuals worry about appearance and the opinions of others. Men normally command the appearance of dominance and masculinity. Having an extensive sexual history can be considered both of these and is accepted much more easily in social environments.
It is common for a man to be proud of having more sexual partners. This can be considered as a bragging right and will talk about such exploits free of negative feedback. In many cases, men will even celebrate when they have slept with a woman. Aside from sexually transmitted diseases, there are hardly any consequences for a man's promiscuity.
The few instances when it would be ill-favored for a man to have multiple partners are if he is in a position of power or if he's married. Political and sports figures do not want to attract negative attention that may harm their career progression. If it leaks out that a governor has a mistress, it is a possibility his chances at reelection or the presidential office could be jeopardized. Should a married man be found guilty of adultery, divorce is likely the action to take. Divorce can lead to undesirable consequences, such as the division of assets.
When the tables turn and a woman is the culprit of sexual promiscuity, the opinions of others change. The image of women depicts innocence and frailty. When a woman taints this image, she may be introduced to negative impressions. Foul names, such as "whore" or "slut," are common for women who sleep with multiple men. It may also be difficult to be socially accepted if this type of background is known. It could be harder to make friends or even find a job.
The consequences for promiscuous women are worse than that for men. Women can also contract STDs but the consequences do not end there. The chance of pregnancy is also likely. If a promiscuous woman should become pregnant, particularly out of wedlock, her reputation will only be harmed more.
The difference between a man and a woman's sexual background is judged differently. It may vary based on an individual's opinion. Promiscuous women have been frowned upon for several decades. These opinions are still shared today but has lessened in the passing of time. Perhaps in the nearby future women will be spared ill word and harmed reputation.
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