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Add to FavoritesThe Bible speaks clearly against premarital sex. It describes marriage as a union between one man and one woman. When a man and a woman are married, they are no longer two but one. The act of sexual intercourse in and of itself is the joining together of two bodies to make them one. Having sex is more than just a physical act; it is also a spiritual and emotional one as well.
There are those that make for submitting to sex before marriage. These are not only ridiculous notions, but can also lead to participation in risky behaviors. The ideas that you need to know if your partner is "good" in bed or not ahead of time will supposedly save you a lot of displeasure later. The truth of the matter is, if it is your first time, you will have no idea what constitutes "good" sex, and if you partner has waited as well, you will both experience the beauty and intimacy of learning together.
Sexually transmitted diseases are a good example of the consequences of our sexual promiscuity as a society. If you do not engage in risky behaviors, and you are able to give yourself to someone who has also avoided premarital sex, you obviously will not have to worry about exposing yourself to the myriad of STD's, and the potential lifelong consequences you may have to face when you contract one. The possibility of contracting one of these infections is great. If untreated, they can lead to future problems with fertility, and the risk of passing along the infection to your spouse upon marriage. Millions of couples spend thousands of dollars per year on fertility treatments due to problems caused from untreated reproductive infections.
Unwanted pregnancy is also another lifelong consequence that can occur from engaging in premarital sex. There number of abortions and adoptions that occur each year due to unplanned pregnancies is alarming. Although sex is not just about baby-making, the person that you are intimate with should be someone that you wouldn't mind having a child with.
The act of sexual intercourse is best performed in a situation with whom you are emotionally, spiritually, and physically tied to. Who better than your spouse? Despite popular belief, once you engage in this activity with someone, you have become one with them. If you have a child, you are forever bond to that person. If you contract an STD, you are forever haunted by the consequences that occurred with that particular person, especially if it affects your ability to bear children one day with your spouse.
Premarital sex places the act of pleasure before learning the life lessons of self-control and self-respect. There was a reason that God prohibited sex prior to marriage, and if you look around at the disintegration of the family unit you will see why. Teen pregnancies, abortions, HIV/AIDS and other STD's, and the rise in the number of single parent households, have all contributed to the deterioration of the family. When we stray from what God intends for us to do, we always mess ourselves up.
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People certainly should have sex before marriage.
Can you imagine holding out unitl the big night, full of expectations, only to find that he or she doesn't really push your buttons. What happens then? A lifetime to be spent without the enjoyment of a fulfilling sexual relationship? Sex isn't the only factor in a successful marriage, but it is a crucial factor. What percentage of marriage breakdowns are caused due to either the husband or wife having sex with another person? Quite a few I'd guess.
If you did have sex before marriage, and it was particularly bad, or you just knew that it would never work, then careful consideration needs to be given regarding the future. Unhappy men and women will seek sex from elsewhere. It happens time and time again. This of course leads to problems within the marriage, both physically and mentally. If a more suitable sexual partner is found, it is not difficult to feel animosity towards your husband or wife. This will, in turn, lead to communication problems and the possible, if not probable, breakdown of the marriage.
It seems that people dance around the issue, stating that it's not the "right" thing to do, or "people will talk". They may base their argument on religious grounds. What may be forgotten is sex is natural and will play a major role in most relationships. It's enjoyable (let's face it) and it's even more so if you are rolling around with someone who enjoys it as much as you do. If this is the person that you choose to be your husband or wife, then you can't (hopefully) go wrong.
As mentioned above, sex, on it's own, does not make a successful marriage, but it is very important and sexual incompatibility should not be taken lightly. I think that if two people are attracted to one another sexually, then it is likely that sex before marriage is going to happen anyway. There is hardly a force on earth that could prevent that from happening. If you find that things aren't quite what you expected, give some thought as to what might be wrong. It needs to be sorted out before you are married. It could save a lot of heartache.
It's an important issue that goes deeper than any moral argument. If the bond between the couple is strong, then sex before marriage is not going to alter it. The sex will strengthen the bond and allow the couple to address other issues in their relationship, issues that can be controlled.
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