Yes

by Tamara Haddock

Created on: June 03, 2011   Last Updated: August 09, 2011

Sexual preference has nothing to do with a person's ability to raise and care for a child.   The question itself is based on personal views on the morality of sex.Consider carefully where the view that gay couples shouldn't have children comes from.

Throughout history sex of any kind has been a taboo subject. It was considered a perverse act for a man and a woman to be alone together doing things they thought they couldn't talk about. Over the past century much of the world have moved past this archaic view of sex. It has gone from a dirty, shameful act only done out of duty, to a more casual and relaxed view on the subject. While it's still not appropriate to talk about at the dinner table it has been accepted as a perfectly natural and pleasurable part of an adults life.

As long as it's between a man and a woman the rest of the world stays out of a couples sex life. However as soon as someone is revealed to be homosexual the archaic close minded cult rears it's ugly head again to tell perfectly capable adults what they can and cannot do in the privacy of their own bedroom. Isn't that a little, or a lot, ridiculous? To make matters worse a few like minded individuals have convinced the world that what a couple does in the bedroom somehow effects their ability to raise children.

It's time for a reality check. Science has come along way in the past hundred years or so. In the past if a homosexual wanted to have a child they still had to do it the old fashioned way. That's no longer the case, through surrogates it's possible for them to become parents without having to leave their comfort zone. The cost is expensive and some couples who don't feel a biological bond to the child is necessary want to adopt instead. They choose to open their hearts and home to a child that has nothing. It is a valid and great decision.

There are many people that disagree with the decision. They believe that it is inappropriate for a gay couple to raise a child and are eager for the world to jump on the bandwagon to take a few more rights away from a group that is “different.” The arguments against gay adoption are flimsy at best.

The arguments against gay adoption include:
1. It's unseemly.
2. It endangers the child's emotional development.
3. A gay parent that is the same sex as the child will molest him or her.
4. It increases the likelihood that the child will be homosexual as well.

Starting at the top. What this means is that it goes against their personal beliefs of moral behavior. Which is in most cases based solely on religious views. Therefore this argument becomes completely invalid since the gay couple obviously doesn't share their views on the subject. Adoption falls under the jurisdiction of the state not the church so any argument based on Christianity and what the Bible says has no place in it. If the Christians want to pray for the child that's good. All children need prayers but they should start praying for their own souls before trying to change the parents. “Judge Not”

There is no evidence of any impact on the child's emotional development. They may have a few conflicts if students in their class decide that they are an easy target for bullying because of having gay parents but this comes down on the heads of the parents of the trouble makers not the child in question.

A child has no idea what the words gay or homosexual mean. All they know is it's something their parents or friends say is wrong. If they believe it's ok to attack others the problems are directly from their home environment. In which case it's a strike against the straight parents not the gay ones.

Another point against this argument is that children with homosexual parents do no better or worse than any other child in their age group and area. They also tend to be more accepting of themselves and others than their peers if everything else remains the same.

The next argument is outrageous for so many reasons. Based on this reasoning any parent who has a child of the gender they are sexually attracted to is going to molest their child. Unless the adult has a history of mental illness and pedophilia sexual preference doesn't matter. If they do have such a history they will not be approved for the adoption by any agency or judge so it doesn't matter.

Children need good parents. It's the basic law of the world. A child's needs are simple: a home, food, clothes, and love. None of those are dependent on the parents sexual preference. Any one who is in a strong, stable relationship. That can afford to have children and meets the qualifications to adopt should be allowed to. It's that simple.

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