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Add to FavoritesSeeing this I just had to write something I experienced first hand on this issue.
My husband and I were in the process of planning a camping trip and thought we should buy a portable camper. Looking through the papers we answered an ad from someone selling one. Quickly we called and made arrangements to come over and take a look.
We got to the house and were greeted by a gay couple (males), they then invited us inside their home. Because they were busy feeding a bunch of kids lunch, and I mean a bunch, we waited for them to finish before seeing the camper.
They had 8 kids all in different ages, different nationalities, different sizes, both male and female. Everyone was sitting around the table and were asked to say hello to us, then all 8 children turned to us and said hello in one voice.
Their home was beautiful and all the children were well taken care of. After he had completed his task of feeding the children he excused himself and one little girl said "Daddy I love you" to which he bent over to her giving her a kiss and a hug saying he loved her back then he smiled.
We asked the one man who all the children belonged to and he proudly said "they are ours." My husband and I were a bit shocked to his reply and asked more about their situation.
Turned out he worked for an adoption agency and some of the children were put up for adoption but were less desirable to the general public then the others for what reason I don't know, could be age or their skin color who knows.
He showed us around their beautiful home and into each of the children's quarters, everything was beautifully decorated and organized. At a glance one could tell these children were well taken care of by all the toys and clothes and how well behaved they all were. The Girls had princess bedrooms all adorned in pink and beautiful canopies. And the boys had manly looking rooms in plaids and prints fit for boys.
I probed more so he told us some of the stories of the homes they came from, some were victims of severe child abuse, others were crack addicted when born and so on. Basically they all came from horrible backgrounds and him being in the position he was in, could not let them sit and wait in foster care bouncing from one person to another never getting a family to care for them properly and to be loved.
All the kids were well adjusted and I'm sure would rather be there in the home of a gay couple then in the situations they were in before.
These two men loved these kids like their own and hands down were fantastic parents to all 8 of them.
It didn't matter what the two men did behind closed doors they were loving and had lots to offer these very unfortunate children.
They had a normal home, there was nothing there that indicated less than a beautiful well cared for family to us.
They took the kids on vacations they took them out to dinner just like a normal family with children. Their ages ranged from 3-17. The oldest was a male child they adopted when he was 12 and he was a normal boy from what he told us and what we could see.
The two men being gay did not effect the out come of their sexuality contrary to some belief but he was a normal young boy with girlfriends all over.
My husband and I walked away with a different point of view that day throughly impressed with the love in this home of all the children. I came away convinced that the children were in such a better place they had been before.
I see nothing wrong with gay couples adopting children as long as they are provided for and given the love and attention that every child deserve.
A persons sexual orientation has nothing to do with their parenting skills, love is universal and has no borders or restrictions. Someone capable of parenting should be allowed, we all know there are way too many people in this world who aren't good parents, and these kids were a perfect example from their prior lives.
We bought the camper and every time we use it it reminds us of that couple and their beautiful family. It's a good feeling when you experience something like we did knowing that someone is loving these children that would have otherwise ended up with nothing but empty dreams and no one to really love them fully and allow them to reach their full potential.
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Homosexuals should know better than anyone, the difficulties and heartache that come with that kind of lifestyle. To consider raising a child in such a lifestyle is more than selfish.
Children have so much to deal with growing up in today's society. It is common knowledge that growing up today is harder than it has ever been. To add to that plus the questions and mental factors of being adopted, it just doesn't seem right to top it off with having to explain how they have two mommy's or daddy's just seems cruel.
No matter the potential adoptive parents motive for wanting to adopt I fail to see any way that it would be fair to subject a child to such a controversial lifestyle. I think the line to gay rights should definitely be drawn with adopting a child; such an act is completely violating the rights of the child to have a fair chance in growing up with a traditional family.
Why should a child have to deal with the everyday controversies of homosexuality? Yes, I think everyone should be treated equal however, that is not the way it is in the real world.
I understand the instinct to be a parent doesn't disappear because a person is gay but that does not mean it is alright to bring a child into the mix. Not to mention the obvious reasons on why it is immoral to allow gays to adopt. Homosexuality is a sin. Regardless of what laws America pass, it is still breaking the laws of God.
I ask the gay man or woman considering adopting a child to keep the child's best interest at heart while making their decision and not the interest of their own. Think of the ridicule they have endured in their life the mocking and hate they have had to deal with. How is it fair to bring an innocent child into such a judgmental and misunderstood lifestyle?
When asking my eleven year old son what he thinks about gays being allowed to adopt children he replied, "They shouldn't because kids should have a mom and dad". I think if it is that clear to a child it should also be as clear to us adults, whether we are gay or straight.
I hope anyone who reads this article, gay or straight understands my opinion on this matter is not based on any ill feelings for gays nor is it an attempt to say gay couples are unable to be good parents. My opinion is based solely on what I feel is best for the children. I also do not believe it is fair to a child to be adopted into a single parent family or a family where both parents have demanding jobs that will require a lot of time away from the child by both parents. I think when deciding to give a family a child that child's best interest should be the sole decision maker.
Therefore, it is not fair to place a child in a homosexual family where that child is going to grow up trying to figure out what is right or wrong and having to explain or defend their parents to their friends all their lives. They shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable at school events or such when they have 2 mommies or 2 daddies that stand out when all the other children are there with their mommy's and daddy's.
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