Yes

by Jacquline Francis

Created on: October 12, 2010   Last Updated: October 21, 2010

 Love is the utmost beautiful and powerful feelings that existed in human being. Of course, love has limited the distances and crossing the boundaries. So does the long distance relationship. It really can work. Perhaps if we take a look closely, there is nothing different between a long distances relationship and short distances relationship except that you are apart miles away from your love one. Even I have experiences in a long distances relationship for almost 2 years and it work. We spend time together knowing each other for few months before we were apart for long distances relationship due to living in different places.

 Have had a relationship with someone miles apart has a lot of challenge especially if you have different background and culture. When you are in a long distance relationship, some people do have the perception that this kind of relationship wouldn't work. Why? Many reasons can be related. Some of it is because you can't meet each other often and didn't know what your partner is actually doing right now. However, if we think about it, even if you have a short distance relationship, sometimes some people didn't actually have a clue of their partner activities. Hence, the problem is not the distances but depend on the people and how they manage the relationship that they were in.

 Keeping a relationship is not as hard as we thought if we follow the simple rules. Yet, I didn't mean it is easy enough by just simply follow the rules. Thus,effort is still needed. Most of us did have listen about it over and over again but it is true. Before we look at these rules, it is essential to share to people that the first thing to do is to love yourself and your partner as the way you are. This means that you and your partner can really accept each other whether it is the individual quality or the bad thing in oneself and try to bring out the best for each other.

 A strong relationship need to have trust and commitment. This two attributes is really important in a relationship. Love is not just limit for a person to feel it but in order to survive in a relationship; we need to build mutual trust and commitment for each other. Moreover, trust and commitment reflects on how well you know your partner and it is a start for a long term relationship. When you nurtured trust and commitment, you are ready to move your relationship to the next level.

 People that have a long distances relationship need to take care of themselves. This includes being honest and loyal to your partner while you enjoyed your life ahead with your family or friends. Automatically, both of you will know the limit and don't want to ruin a great relationship if you have these attributes. It is necessary to do so because you don't have your partner near you to be depends on and both of you didn't have the same activities and some may have different working schedule. While enjoyed your activities, it is also a way to reflect your relationship and to reject the loneliness from trapping your heart. Fill yourself with the things that could benefit you and also something that might strengthen your relationship such as learning other skills. The next time you meet or contact you can share your knowledge with your partner.Moreover, even if you are far away, doesn't mean you have to look sloppy and unattractive because your love one is not around with you. 

 Communication is important especially when you can't see each other often. Both people need to contact each other, keep each other update with their partner activities and always shared almost anything such as the feelings, thinking and passion. By sharing you can swim deep inside your partner's mind and feelings and also can help you to understand your partner well. Good communications can help to enhance a relationship. If a problem occurs, discussion is a way to communicate to solve it. Moreover, if you are arguing on something, don't leave it long. Someone must accept the fact that you were in an argument and try to bring out the problem to be discuss and solve as fast as you can.

 Today's, the technology has help us to broadening the opportunity to having great connection for couple with long distances relationship. Hence, being separate miles away is not an issue anymore. By taking an advantage over the brilliant of technologies, you can contact your love one more often. Email, Instant messenger, cell phone and social network like Facebook has helped us to ease the burden of being lonely and cured the pain of missing your love one. Thanks to Mark Zuckenberg for creating such a great networking community. Not only you can met old friends but contact your partner too.

 Spend time together. You might feel awkward to hear this as you might think how you can spend time together when you are not at the same place with your partner. Well, actually you can and you need a creative way to spend your time together. Have a plan instead. When you want to watch your favorite football match at night, you can ask your partner to watch the same channel. Or when you are planning to go for a jog early in the morning, you can wake your partner and ask him or her to do the same thing. This makes you and your partner feel closer than you can think. You can also make a plan to meet up in some place. Cherish every moment and appreciate the moment when you are together because every second is important to be remembered by both of you.

 Always set them free. This means that you don't need to control their life. Sometimes you might get frustrated but this is a great outcome to a person in a long distances relationship. The formula is when you love someone with trust and adding with commitment and great communication, of course they will happily come back to you. Thus, letting a person free means that giving you and your partner space to breathe as an individual that later will come and give the best to make your love one blissful. Indeed, the long distances relationship can always work.

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