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Created on: May 03, 2009
Their eyes met across a crowded room. The party chatter ebbed away, and the music slowed. That first lovers' glaze is the staple of the romantic novelist, and scientists believe they have now revealed the true nature of its true attractive power.
According to new research, romance has very little do to with it. That "look" is all about sex and ego.
"It does seem to be a sort of narcissistic thing. People are attracted to people who are attracted to them," said Ben Jones in the Face Research Laboratory at the University of Aberdeen.
"It's really a very basic effect that we are all, at some level at least, aware of - which is that if you smile at people and you maintain eye contact, it makes you more attractive."
He said the work challenges most previous studies of facial attractiveness that have focused on physical characteristics, such as a preference for symmetrical faces or masculine versus feminine features.
"Social signals about how attracted someone else is to you actually seem to be quite important," he said. "You are attracted to people who are attracted to you, and that shows attractiveness is not just about physical beauty."
Dr Jones and his colleagues say they have shown that attraction is based on social cues that say, "I'm interested in you". The most important cue seems to be whether someone is looking directly at you.
The team put together four different sets of digital images - women looking happy, women looking disgusted, men looking happy and men looking disgusted. In each case, the scientists made up pairs of images which were identical except that in one the person was looking directly at the camera and in the other their gaze was averted. Volunteers then rated the relative attractiveness of the images in each pair.
The team found that a direct stare is attractive only if the person giving it looks as if they like you. This preference was even higher if the face in the picture was of the opposite sex.
"What we found at the most basic level is that people like faces with direct gaze more than they like the same faces with averted gaze," said Dr Jones. "In other words, people find it more attractive when they are being looked at."
The results are published in the Proceedings of the Royal Society.
Dr Jones said the results make sense from an evolutionary perspective. "It takes quite a lot of effort to attract a mate and what you want to do is allocate that effort in a more efficient way, in other words in a way that is more likely to help you secure a mate."
So it seems there is no point wasting your time on someone who is just not interested.
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Created on: September 16, 2011 Last Updated: September 18, 2011
Love at first sight – does it exist or not? It really depends on your definition of love. For some people, love equals lust or attraction. For others, it goes way deeper than simple infatuation.
Nowadays people are very much influenced by what they see in the media and on TV. Soap operas, romantic movies, Hollywood couples. People are given the impression that love at first sight happens all the time, that it is a fact. So how come it never happened to you? Why are you missing out on the sweet stuff?
Love at first sight is a myth. It makes life seem sweeter than cotton candy. However, true love cannot possibly happen within an instant. It takes time to develop this deep and genuine feeling that enables you to move mountains. It has to be nurtured and cared for until it is so powerful and strong that nothing can ever destroy it. You can look at it like a plant that you watch grow from its infancy to adulthood. At the beginning, when it is still fragile and small, it can be called infatuation. It is quite vulnerable during this stage. As it matures, its roots grow deeper; it gains in strength and looks beautiful.
Infatuation, unlike true love, can happen at first sight. It is based on body chemistry and an extremely positive view of your lover. You feel desire; you “love” everything about your partner and spend 24 hours a day, seven days a week on cloud number nine. You lose your sense of reality for a while, because your hormones go crazy. Spending time apart seems unbearable. How are you going to survive a minute without your sweetie?
This stage of infatuation does not last forever. It slowly subsides and either makes room for true love or it disappears completely and leads to a break-up.
This means what movies are trying to sell you as love at first sight is nothing but pure attraction. If you see someone for the first time, you know nothing about him or her. You can feel the chemistry, the tension, and the rest is your imagination of how great your counterpart is. In most cases, your interpretation will be far from the truth, because you tend to see only the good sides. Only time will show if you love your partner’s bad sides just as much as their nice traits. Only time will bring love. Only time.
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