Agree

by Kimberley A. Willis

Created on: September 24, 2007   Last Updated: January 19, 2009

Marriage is not how heterosexual people can get an advantage over unmarried or homosexual persons. It's not about who can inherit communal assets, or get health insurance from another person's job, or legally cohabitate together. Those things can all be resolved with some other form of legal certificate, or simply good legislation. Marriage is an old and very beneficial way of creating a prosperous and stable society. Marriage is heterosexual, between two of the opposite sex, who practice sex as nature intends for it to happen, that's been the meaning since the beginning of civilization and that's how it should remain. Marriage defines a relationship that is normal and natural, a relationship that stabilizes natures design.

Marriage is essentially a ritual that shows the society they live in that a man and a woman are a unit, for the purpose of bearing children, creating wealth together, providing for each other and children, and belonging to each other. Not all marriages produce children, but marriage gives society an indication of who is to provide for children born in the society. Not all marriages involve people who "love" each other, especially in early civilization. In early history marriages were generally one man with several wives. But the fact remains that marriage was between men and women. There is a reason that this practice existed in every primitive culture- it worked! If homosexual partnerships or single parenthood benefited society equally as well, then nature and culture would have allowed these practices to flourish.

The ritual of marriage came with laws that stabilized society. You were to leave the spouse of another person alone, this assured the continuation of a clear linage, and it also helped prevent constant battles over whose spouse belonged to who. We know that from the beginning of time men and women have cheated on their vows, but generally marriage helped society stabilize family units. Strong family units are able to raise more children and those children are more likely to become productive adults.

Homosexuality is a failure in the process of nature. Either it is a genetic failure, or a failure in early thought processing, or maybe a combination. It is not normal or natural behavior. We should stop trying to pretend it is. That doesn't mean that we should throw these people out of society and deprive them of their rights. We should feel compassion for them as we would people with other genetic defects or mental illness. And no matter how persecuted homosexuals think they are, the only way they can survive is if they are tolerated in society and obviously our current society tolerates and protects them quite well.

Homosexuals dismiss the thought of giving a different name to same sex alliances other than marriage. They want to marry because this will make them feel that they are normal and like everyone else. They call on us to accept their differences and then want to deny that there are differences. A homosexual alliance is not the same as heterosexual love and ideally, marriage. It isn't marriage just because some unnatural way of having sex is practiced.

Let's find another good name for homosexual alliances and give them some of the legal perks of marriage. And perhaps we can also extend some of those perks to spinster sisters who live together, two bachelors who are business partners, a mother and son living together, all people who live with and care for someone else. I don't deny that homosexuals can love each other. We can all love people deeply that are of the same sex, our sisters, brothers, parents, dear friends. We can also love and care deeply about other species of animals. We can live with them, have partnerships with them, share with them. But we don't marry them.

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