Yes

by Sapphire Magpie Ravenclaw

Created on: January 30, 2012

It seems hard to imagine why any woman who wants to have a baby with her husband should not wish to gain the consent of her spouse. It is a hard fact that a fundamental part of any relationship is that it is based on trust. Then, for a married couple to make the choice to have a child together, this trust should be well and truly in place. Assuming that this is the case, there can, surely, be no reason why a woman would not wish to consult her husband about such major details.

There is, of course, the possibility that, without the necessity of spousal consent, the whole system could be misused. A woman could, for example, go behind her husband's back in order to get pregnant by a sperm donor. There might be several reasons for this. One reason might be that the husband did not wish to have a child. For reasons such as this, it should be necessary that consent should be required. Such consent would help to combat any such potential abuse.

If a couple wish to have a child, it is important that both people agree. It is also important that, if there is a reason for using a sperm donor, it is discussed between the woman and her spouse. If the husband has agreed to raise a child with his wife, he should be included in major decisions. For a man to have a child who is not biologically his own, it may, in some ways, be even more important that he is included. For a man, having a child when he, perhaps, is unable to get his wife pregnant himself might already have lower self-esteem and being left out of such choices would only make it worse.

Surely, if a woman is in a happy marriage based on love and trust, she would want to involve her husband every step of the way. This way, it might also help the bonding process. It can sometimes be hard for a man to bond with a child because he does not have the same instincts as a mother. He does not have the same physical connection as that of the mother. This can often be the case with men when they are the biological father. So, imagine if the same man can not have his own child, this dilemma could be worse. Therefore it is essential that the husband makes every possible connection he can with the child, beginning with the consent to use a donor.

Basically, if a man and a woman are in a stable relationship and both wish to have a child together, there is no reason why the woman would not automatically seek her husband's consent.

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