No

by Sapphire Magpie Ravenclaw

Created on: July 27, 2011

Certainly not. There are, have always been, and always will be "serial cheats". It may be because they do not have the emotional capacity to commit to a faithful relationship or because they have never found the person who gives them stability, trust, self-worth or whatever else they may be lacking. It may be simply for the thrill of it. This in no way means that everybody who has ever cheated on someone will be guarantee to allow it to happen again in the same relationship or in a future relationship.

People do not cheat because they are predisposed to it. There may be any number of reasons for cheating but pretty much every single one of them will be because there is a problem within their current relationship. Of course, in such situations, it is easy enough for someone on the outside to see that there are better ways to deal with the issues but, for some, it could be that it feels like the only way out of an unhealthy relationship.

It is perfectly possible to be in an unhealthy relationship and cheat but move on to a better relationship and not cheat.

There may be so many different factors building up to someone cheating. There is no excuse, it is always wrong to cheat but people who do so, in general, do so because they are unhappy in their relationship. Obviously, there are people - both men and women - who are serial cheats because they enjoy the thrill or because they know they can get away with it but most people are not that way inclined.

While it is always wrong to cheat, people will have reasons. They may have self-esteem issues, they may not feel they are getting the attention they need from their partner, they may simply not be mature enough for a faithful, long-term relationship. There are these and so many other reasons why people cheat. Obviously there are no acceptable excuses but there are usually reasons why someone cheats. Anyone may be capable of cheating. It may be a mistake but people make mistakes. It would be unfair to assume that just because someone did something once, which may have been years in the past, that they would do it again.

If someone has cheated several times in multiple relationships then they are likely to continue doing it unless something drastic changes but just because someone has cheated once does not mean that they will do it again.

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