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Do women really control relationships?
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| Yes | 59% | 97 votes | Total: 164 votes | |
| No | 41% | 67 votes |
Yes
by Dedra Grover
Created on: May 22, 2011
Do women really control relationships? YES! No matter what you do in life, whether it’s your job or relationship, only one person can be in charge. As far as relationships go, men, the women are always in charge. This is not necessarily a bad thing; in fact it could make your life a little easy and stress free.
Why are the women always in charge? Well there are many reasons we could go over but let’s just go over a few for the meantime. The first reason women are in charge is, that is no way a man could work and run household all in the same lifetime. Men have a hard time just taking care of themselves let alone a whole household. Could you imagine a man waking up in the morning having breakfast ready for the kids, getting the kids dressed for school, and then having to get his self ready for work? No, it’s not impossible, but it seems to be more of a challenge for a man. Women can put a lot on their plates in one day. Working, cleaning the house, taking care of the kids, and taking care of the man.
Another reason the woman is in charge. Relationships are hard to handle and things can and will get complicated. A man would mostly likely give up on a relationship if things aren’t working out. He would move on to the next chick and continue this cycle until he ended up a lonely old man. A woman on the other hand would try to figure things out. She would probably suggest counseling or seek professional help to try to save the relationship with her man. This is a good reason why sometimes it’s good for a woman to be in control of the relationship.
The woman should be in charge of the home finances. Women are always perceived as not being good in the financial department. This isn’t necessarily true. Women are now becoming very career minded individuals. It’s no longer about having shopping sprees every day or getting our hair and nail done. Women today are more concerned about taking care of home first, just like men. So, with that being said, if your woman isn’t in charge of finances then you should consider giving her that role.
Men it’s ok to let the woman control things all the time or at least every now and then. If you have a good woman in your life, someone smart with a good head attached, you should try to see how things would work out if you put her in charge for a day. Who knows it may change your relationship or your life! So give it a try!
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No
by Jean Haut
Created on: February 28, 2011 Last Updated: March 01, 2011
Women today have more control over relationships than they had in the past, but they still don’t have total control. Men today still seem to have control and power over women. There are men out there that are very controlling. Some men expect their wives or girlfriends to be home at a certain time, to look a certain way and to have dinner on the table at a certain time. Even some men control whether their wife or girlfriend can speak or see their family and friends. Women do have the option of leaving controlling men but most of them end up staying in fear. The husband or boyfriend may threaten them if they leave or the woman is afraid to leave due to financial reasons. Therefore, that gives the man more control.
Today women can make a better income that they once did, but a woman's income still isn't equal to a man's income. If women made as much income as a man that would give a woman more leverage to leave controlling relationships from the financial stand point. If there were more help for women to leave controlling relationships, maybe women would have more control over relationships. If there were more education on relationships for women early in life, such as in high school, then maybe that would help women better understand that they don't have to be in controlling relationships. There should also be education for young men as well on how a woman should be treated without being controlling. I believe if a person is raised in a household where the father is controlling towards the mother then the child grows up believing that is the way a relationship should be. I believe by offering relationship classes in high schools, I think the controlling cycle could be broken. Controlling men make women have a low self-esteem by degrading them by telling their wife or girlfriend that they are unattractive or no other man will want them. The woman ends up staying in a controlling relationship in fear of being alone. Controlling men have a way of making the woman believe that she isn't worthy of being in a relationship with no other man. A woman in this kind of relationship would leave the relationship and be on her own for a while to gain control of her and her life.
Woman have a come a long ways since the beginning of the 1900's far as control over relationships, but they still have a ways to go to have total control.
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