Yes

by Christy Moore

Created on: September 20, 2010

In my opinion I believe that honesty is an extremely important foundation on which to build all relationships. I feel that anything that you have experienced which you second guess or question yourself about should be discussed with your partner. If this is an issue that you feel they may frown upon this is even more reason to discuss it.

You do not want to leave this discussion to chance your partner learns of it through a source other than you and it is blown out of proportion. This is a matter of great importance so the likelihood of them not wanting to know this is rather slim. The fact of whether or not it harms your relationship is completely dependant upon the outlook of your partner.

This could all have a great bearing on your partner's religious beliefs or merely their traditional upbringing. This is an issue which is extremely controversial for a reason. Most people who view abortion as an option do so because they do not necessarily believe that it is yet a life form. Those against it believe otherwise.

In my experience, most men who long for or appreciate the thought of fatherhood frown upon it. You may have some men who may believe it to be extenuating circumstances that render it okay yet even in those I've found that most would want to know about it. Think about it, it is not something you want discussed at a family get together on your little sister's sympathetic stroll down memory lane.

I mean her intentions may simply be to relay how fragile you are and that your heart be safe-guarded yet all the best intentions in the world couldn't prepare you for the look of utter shock and then disappointment followed up by anger on your partner's face when this tid-bit of information is shared.

So the issue would more than likely seem to be who would you rather them hear it from? Would you want to explain gently and answer any unanswered questions just between the two of you or would you rather someone drop the official dime, accidently and then prepare yourself for the shouting and accusations and the doubt that will now hang over your every word.

You will never prepare yourself for the look upon their face as if they are constantly awaiting some shocking news that they weren't aware of to fall into their laps. So to be the messenger in my opinion rules out the desire to kill the messenger.

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