Yes

by C.M. Tucker

Created on: November 02, 2010   Last Updated: October 16, 2011

Has the feminist movement gone too far?  Maybe. Maybe not.  There is only so much one can get by force.  And, being out of touch with the very group it is supposed to represent can only spell out failure.  And a facade of equality doesn't really cut it either.  So.  The truth is hard to find in a hay stack of lies.

If feminism was what we are often led to believe, then it has gone in some wrong directions.   We are at least equal.  But, not in the same ways.  The real issues have to do with our right to pursue the life or lifestyle we want without being held back, disrespected or disadvantaged due to our sex alone.  We were taught in school that feminism was started by Suffragettes who risked life and liberty to improve women’s lives by giving them the same rights as men.

As it turns out, women were given limited rights on paper for the purpose of ‘taxing the other half of the population’.  Everything after that was a struggle (and still is) to realize those empty promises implied by our new freedoms that were guaranteed by law.  An ‘elite’ person has said in a pre-9/11 interview that the elite have allowed feminism to exist because it benefits them. Here’s the fuller or lengthier video:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oygBg6ETYIM

Here’s another one where he gets to the part about feminism a bit faster:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YIaLwlA4JEk

There appears to be some cultural schisms that make feminism such a touchy subject with many die hard women haters and women alike. 

Militant feminists go too far, but maybe they have to.  This is because women haven’t made much of a dent on their own without the approval of the movers and shakers in the financial kingdom in the United States.

Even in places where men and women earn the same amount of money for the same job, men get promoted faster and get groomed for those promotions more frequently.  I’ve seen this first hand (repeatedly) at a corporation where I worked for 12 years.

Many men act as though they have more rights than women.  If that were true, then it would become their sole responsibility to take care of all women for their entire lives.  That has never happened.  There has always been abandoned girl children, widows, divorced and single women who had to make their way in the world completely on their own.  And the women who did find protection or support, they often found themselves constricted to difficult work and/or harassment.  Men, in general, have not earned the right to be superior.  Some may have.  But, that’s not a blanket to be extended over all men.

In marriages, families and work places, each individual gives up something in the relationship.  What is given up for each person should be specific to the person, not the gender.  The same is true of contributions to the relationship.  There MAY be common denominators for a gender.  Yet, this is by no means a valid way to determine who gets paid more, gets more opportunity or more of the work.  Balance is the desired goal.

Men and women are not the same.  That’s not what is meant by equal rights.

Women want some level of free choice too.  We want to pursue our dreams too.  We want to have a right to participate in family discussions.  We are capable of independent thought when we choose, just like men are.  So, why treat us as if we don’t have those rights?  If we can’t be trusted as equals, how can we be trusted to raise and teach our children?

We are not objects.  We are people too.

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