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Can a cheating spouse ever be faithful again?
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| Yes | 52% | 317 votes | Total: 609 votes | |
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Yes
by Julia W
Created on: September 15, 2011 Last Updated: September 16, 2011
Yes, a cheating spouse can be faithful again, but there is no guarantee. First of all, it is important to figure out why your spouse cheated on you. There can be a number of reasons that led to having an affair, but most of the time it will be a lack of intimacy at home.
Have you had marriage problems? Have you been fighting a lot? Do you live separate lives under the same roof? Before a spouse even thinks about cheating, there must be something going seriously wrong in the current relationship, because it just does not happen when you are happily married and everything is rosy.
There are usually signs that precede unfaithfulness. You might fight about every little detail or you might not talk at all. Maybe you barely see each other and don’t know each other’s needs and dreams. In any case, something will feel just not right, even if you can’t name it. You might feel dissatisfied yourself.
And then it happened. Your spouse cheated on you; maybe once, maybe for weeks or even months. It is like a dagger in your heart, it hurts really badly.
If you are lucky, your spouse will confess and tell you everything about it. Then you two have a good chance of sorting it out. It is your chance to be completely honest and open with each other. Depending on how much affection is left between the two of you, you can either save your marriage, just see it as another obstacle you had to overcome or you decide to split up and walk separate paths through life.
Since marriage is a powerful institution that is worth fighting for, you should at least try to fix it. It is often way worse to go through a war-like divorce than to forgive your spouse for cheating on you.
In general, you can’t know whether your spouse will cheat again or not. It absolutely depends on the quality of your marriage. If you are happy with each other, respect and treat each other well, you can be pretty sure that it will not happen again. In order to keep your marriage intact, you have to keep working on it. Nothing comes from nothing. Be intimate with each other, ask your spouse about his/her dreams and fantasies and really listen to what your partner is saying. All of us want to feel understood.
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No
by Gerard MP
Created on: April 09, 2010
In my opinion the saying " A leopard can't change its spots ", comes to my mind when pondering this issue. From experience in my own life, seeing people hurt by unfaithfulness can make loving anyone again damn near impossible, a trust is broken, a love betrayed.
Acting on impulse is a likely excuse, but deep down the repercussions of the elicited affair can destroying to a family, a cheater is always a cheater in my book. There is no way of repairing the damage. So the question of a cheater ever being faithful again is most certainly no. For trust is more precious than gold and scared as married love. A house divided will not stand and like cement , faithfulness is built. One love that is shared by two can withstand any outer temptation, but for the one who does fall for this younger, perhaps prettier temptress rues it later. In themselves they are conscious of the act of cheating and will find no love as like that of a matrimonial coupling.
The cheater won't find faithfulness in another by his or her past, like a echo in the past resurfacing to the present. I guess remorseful cheater has a world of guilt upon them, losing perhaps a loving partner and children;s trust. broken, burned and decayed.
The tears of pity flow, for as once was love now is gone, with it, trust in their relationships not only in them but the children and surrounding family members. A now the question is , If not found out , how long would the affair continued, inevitable maybe.
I would forgive and no forget, but it would mean the end of the relationship, no amount of begging and sorrowful pleas would convince me of future faithfulness. Would you be stupid enough to forgive and then forget and then in five year find it had happened again. Once a cheater always a cheater, we live as we learn. One sexual partner should be enough for any man or woman and If not stay the hell away from me.
It would only be pretentious for one to think otherwise, save your self from the hurt and pain, get clear from this cheater for they will only do the same again. Lessons can be learned and past betrayals exited from becoming repeats.
So clearly to sum up this query a cheating partner would not be faithful again, imagine the arguments and constant wondering in your own heart of hearts. Be clear and steer well clear of bad unfaithful partners. It's your trust they have broken after all.
Without trust there is no love.
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